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Hi everyone.

this is my first time posting and very new to this support group. I have my surgery (RNY) scheduled for November 5th and set to start Optifast on October 15th. I'm so excited a little nervous too but I'm going through this little phase where I think, "last time for this, last time for that," thing. Like eating at my favourite restaurant for the last time, having a girls wine night etc.. I'm hoping I'm not the only one that has done or who is doing this? I think it's a pretty realistic thing to do considering the massive changes up ahead. Anyone with me here? Lol

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Hi everyone.

this is my first time posting and very new to this support group. I have my surgery (RNY) scheduled for November 5th and set to start Optifast on October 15th. I'm so excited a little nervous too but I'm going through this little phase where I think, "last time for this, last time for that," thing. Like eating at my favourite restaurant for the last time, having a girls wine night etc.. I'm hoping I'm not the only one that has done or who is doing this? I think it's a pretty realistic thing to do considering the massive changes up ahead. Anyone with me here? Lol

I had a cookie!!!! Lol.

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I am scheduled for RNY gastric bypass October 8. I have definitely been having the same thoughts you are describing. I have thought many times I am not going to be able to eat this after surgery and that there are things that I am not young to be able to do like eat the birthday cake at my grandsons birthday party on October 29. But these thoughts are not sad thoughts with me just reminders to myself that I will Jo longer do or eat things and that I will be a much healthier person for it. Looking forward to changing my life although I know it is going to be really hard.

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It's true that they aren't sad thoughts, I'm not depressed about the lasts. It's almost comparative to the grieving process for me however. a healthy way of saying goodbye to all my old habits, my crutches, my favourite tastes. Bye old friends, you suck! Lol

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Shellbell79, I agree 100%, it is a grieving process that started quite awhile ago when I first started contemplating the surgery and has progressed as I get closer to the date. I will be so happy to not be thinking about food 24/7.

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Shellbell79, I agree 100%, it is a grieving process that started quite awhile ago when I first started contemplating the surgery and has progressed as I get closer to the date. I will be so happy to not be thinking about food 24/7.

Agreed wlswarrior! I can't wait to not think about food or be physically incapable of over eating. I'm so ready for this!

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Hi everyone.

this is my first time posting and very new to this support group. I have my surgery (RNY) scheduled for November 5th and set to start Optifast on October 15th. I'm so excited a little nervous too but I'm going through this little phase where I think, "last time for this, last time for that," thing. Like eating at my favourite restaurant for the last time, having a girls wine night etc.. I'm hoping I'm not the only one that has done or who is doing this? I think it's a pretty realistic thing to do considering the massive changes up ahead. Anyone with me here? Lol

I love the way you named it "the lasts", because i have been feeling like this too, i was a little sad about not being able to eat holiday food too. I will not lie, i have been eating my favorite meals lately because i know that once i get this surgery i wont be eating those things anymore. my birthday is 3 days before surgery and i am going to drink the night away as well. i am saying goodbye to all my bad habits too.

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I love the way you named it "the lasts", because i have been feeling like this too, i was a little sad about not being able to eat holiday food too. I will not lie, i have been eating my favorite meals lately because i know that once i get this surgery i wont be eating those things anymore. my birthday is 3 days before surgery and i am going to drink the night away as well. i am saying goodbye to all my bad habits too.

Bronxmerci, thank god I'm not the only one. Lol the lady that booked my surgery even booked me after our Canadian thanksgiving so I could "eat turkey and stuffing for the last time." So I'm guessing they are aware of this "lasts" phenomena too! Lol, I plan a couple drinking parties too.

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I am thinking of a few things that way too. But, I need to turn my thinking around to the fact that we are only on vacation from each other (most things ). And that eventually many things can come back in smaller portions or with some changed ingredients, but many things will show back up. And those things that we can/should not have had in the first place/-- well --- good riddance!

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My surgery is scheduled for 10/14 and I have worked on changing my eating habits for the last 6 months, and done very well on preop diet, I have lost 45 pounds. If I lose more than 4 pounds before 10/14, (still have one week liquid diet to do) my BMI will be below 35 and insurance might balk. I have asked if they could back out if I lose too much, and have not gotten a straight answer on this.

But back on topic, I have been having a case of the lasts myself, problem is, my body does not like the richer or sweeter foods anymore, kinda feel like I have been getting the dumping syndrome already. So I have been bummed at my attempts for my lasts...

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I love to have parties. It was always my plan that i was going to throw a "Last Supper" potluck where everybody would bring their favorite guilty pleasure. Then, !!AllOfASudden" my surgical coordinator put me on a liquid diet. There was no warning at all. I contemplated waiting a day or two before I started so I could have a few of my favorite meals, but I decided that it was time to stop messing around with food. I went out and got what I needed for this. She told me I'd be on it until the surgery so that is that. I am pretty glad I made that decision. I do look back every once in a while, but I have to do this. I am 61, and it is my last chance.

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My surgery is scheduled for October 2,2014 and I find myself saying the same thing,but I turn that negative into a positive.i have been on a roller coaster for a long time and it's time to get off,and enjoy life. The best of luck to all of you we have made a decision that will benefit us for the rest of our lives.

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Hi everyone.

this is my first time posting and very new to this support group. I have my surgery (RNY) scheduled for November 5th and set to start Optifast on October 15th. I'm so excited a little nervous too but I'm going through this little phase where I think, "last time for this, last time

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