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If any of you read my thread in the Complications section, you know that I had some pretty serious problems which landed me in the hospital for an unfill and xrays last Friday (after being unable to even keep Water down for almost 3 days).

I have a slightly flipped port and they had to go in sideways through my bellybutton under xray to deflate my band. Then I was told I had a slip, and the wonderful surgeon who got me through all of this (Dr. Husted from LAPSF, not my original surgeon but the one I am keeping- he is AWESOME), told me that the slip is not too major and can "probably" be fixed with a repositioning surgery. I am on liquids now but it seems unlikely that it will fix the slip.

I don't care about the cost (well a little, that's one less IVF round we could pay for), or the downtime, and I am not scared about the surgery, providing he gets in and can reposition my band. What I am TERRIFIED OF is that he gets in and sees things he didn't see on the xrays and has to remove my band while I am under.

Despite my complications, I am not ready to lose this band. I am 10 pounds from my goal weight but I just feel like I am not ready to do this on my own. I have learned so much about Portion Control (like I had a choice once I got my band), healthier eating and Protein consumption, etc. But if I lose my band I don't know if I will be able to maintain my weight, let alone lose the rest.

I am 41, and my husband and I have been trying desperately to have another child. Unsuccessful so far. If I lose my band and do end up having another baby, it will be the most wonderful miracle, but I have no doubt under those circumstances that my weight problems will resume.

I don't know what to do. I have been in bed (doctors orders) for three days and I can't stop the tears from the fear of the unknown. I don't even know what responses I am looking for, but you all have been so supportive in the past and I need you now!

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So sorry to hear about your difficulties. I know it is frightening to have complications! :) I would not be able to afford a revision, if I needed one.

Congrats on your weight loss success. :clap2:

My Doc told me that if I continue to eat the banded way I will not gain any weight even if I have the band removed. My concern is "hunger". :hungry:

I hope everything works out the way you would like it to & you can have another child.

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My Doc told me that if I continue to eat the banded way I will not gain any weight even if I have the band removed. My concern is "hunger". :hungry:

Pffft....

If we COULD eat the banded way we wouldn't NEED a band!

Sorry, that was just stupid of your doc to say.

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Heather, I am sorry this is happening to you. I know some slips are can be repaired so I hope it goes well for you. Feel better soon.

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Hang in there! The band helped, but keep in mind you did the work! YES YOU! What will be will be, focus on the positives. You have one beautiful child now and are 10 lbs away from goal! That is an amazing accomplishment. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Maybe this is happening to show you what a strong person you have become. Stay strong and lean on everyone here for support, we will see you through it!

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I hear so much about people having slipped bands, do you know what caused it? Do you have PB eppisodes a lot?

Sorry to hear about your troubles.

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Only recently have I pb'd a lot, and I would not be suprised if it contributed to the slip. PLease listen to someone who is in trouble- IF YOU ARE TOO TIGHT, DON'T IGNORE IT. Get unfilled ASAP.

I was doing pretty well last week and progressed from Clear Liquids to mushies, but the pain and pb's returned yesterday. I will call the doc on Monday.

I am almost ready to give up. I am really not sure I can take this anymore. I am scared to death that I will gain the wait back, but I seriously doubt that they will do a VG conversion on someone who weighs 143 pounds.

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I wish the best for you and hope you get better. I agree about the eating like you have the band being a RIDICULOUS comment. If it were only that easy!

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:phanvan Tomorrow I have an endoscopy and I will be checked for ulcers, esophogitis, erosion, and abnormal cells. I have a slipped band and my stomach is herniated over my band.

Providing there is no erosion, which we are fairly certain of since all of my xrays showed the dye trickling through the way it should have, my band will be repositioned via surgery on Thursday. Because of the horrific complications, the surgeon is coding this as an "acute obstruction" so it looks like my insurance WILL cover all of this. Thank heaven! I have enough on my plate without the worry of coughing up another 10K+.

I'll be back in a few days with an update. Please keep me in your prayers!

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Good luck, Heather! If the "worst" happens and your band has to be removed, don't sweat it too much. The most important thing is your health, and I'm here to tell you life without the band is not the end of the world. You don't wake up the day after it's gone 100 lbs larger, though I know that's what it feels like will happen.

Take it all one day at a time. If your band has to be removed because of a medical situation (like mine was), your insurance carrier might very well cover a replacement even though your BMI is normal. Ask your doctor about that. Your band constitutes ongoing medical treatment that should be continued, so replacement of a slipped band should be seen as a medical necessity.

Keep us posted, and don't worry!!!

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