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ANYONE FEEL DEPRESSED JUST BEFORE SURGERY?



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So I am on my fourth day of a ten day liquid diet. My surgery is scheduled for Monday, August 25th. I feel an overwhelming sensation of depression. Time cannot go fast enough to be over this 10 day period. Work is pure heck, I work in a doctors office where no one seems sympathic they even seem to be trying to set me up to fail. It is hard because my husband still needs to eat and I am used to cooking for him, he works 12 hour days and is very tired when he gets home. So I am making him things that I do not like. I am a very picky eater so that is not real hard to do. In saying I am a picky eater I will have to skip the puréed stage of my post op diet and stay on liquids because I cannot tolerate anything mixed. I have never had a fast food burger because I don't like anything on a bun. That is why this surgery (sleeve) seems to be my cup of tea because I can eat meat......salads not so much.

I really want to have the surgery but to be absolutely honest.....I am a bit concerned. What if I cannot keep food down? What if I cannot get enough Water and Protein in?

I have had a double mastectomy with reconstructive surgery so I am fully aware of what pain is and can be. I recovered very well from my mastectomies. What is really weird to me is that I was out of the hospital the next day after my mastectomies and my surgeon says I need to stay 2 nights for the VSG... Could it be worse that my other surgeries?

I guess I am just trying to put into words what I am going through. Does any one else have any similar feelings?

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I felt depressed after surgery I did not expect it!

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I am having Duodenal Switch surgery the same day. I am depressed for other reasons... I absolutely love to eat, or at leave love to taste about everything in life.. I will be going a few hours for my surgery in which I had set up for months, and guess what...it's the first day of school. I know there will be plenty more first days, but it is hard for me to not be there taking a hundred pictures at the bus stop. As for this pre-op diet, it is not my fave for sure, and as I was going through the handout seeing how much time I will be on all these other stages, it makes me mourn food. Maybe we are in some grieving state of food loss. As for you and the liquids all the time, Good for you. I have teeth and look forward to attempting any kind of real food pureed or not.

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The only time I was depressed was when my insurance denied my surgery. I never wanted to go into a hospital and go under a knife in my life--until I decided that I wanted and needed WLS surgery. Yes, I was scared that I may not wake up afterwards, or that something could wrong with band later, but for me it was a positive life changing decision that I desperately wanted. The only time I feel depressed is when I feel the scale isn't moving as fast as i'd like it, but then I only have to look back 24 months to see where I was, and where I am now. I guess everyone is affected differently after and before major surgery.

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I can totally imagine being depressed during the liquid diet. I think that's the point that it must start to seem most real. I'm not there yet, but I can imagine being in the same place.

Everything you say sounds like normal pre-surgery jitters to me. Top that with a liquid diet, and I'm not surprised you're feeling emotionally down.

All I can suggest is, keep reading things on these boards. People are going through the same thing as you, and feeling the same way. Everyone I have read about on these boards, even the ones who have complications, eventually are thrilled with the outcome and would do it again. Maybe that will allay your fears. Good luck!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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