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my family is telling me to stop loosing weight :(

gruiz27

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gruiz27    219

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I'm 20 years old and had the sleeve in feb 6 2014 I've lost 100 pounds so far and most of my family is telling me stop and stay where I'm at because I'm not going look good if I keep loosing. And this is hurting my feelings .. my set goal is 150 I'm at 225 and I started at 326.

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Newu68    8

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You are in control. What is your ideal weight? You are young so you should think about how you want to live the rest of your life. While you have done amazing so far you are not at your doctor recommended weight. Stay focused and achieve your goals. Your family just hasn't acclimated to your new look. Good luck.

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swimbikerun    1,046

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Hear hear!! What is 150 in terms of BMI for you? If its in normal range, forget them. I would also tell them hey you're hurting me saying that. Why do you not want to support me?

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gruiz27    219

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You are in control. What is your ideal weight? You are young so you should think about how you want to live the rest of your life. While you have done amazing so far you are not at your doctor recommended weight. Stay focused and achieve your goals. Your family just hasn't acclimated to your new look. Good luck.

My ideal weight is 150 also what my surgeon said I'm 5'7 .. thank you.. I will keep going for it.

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gruiz27    219

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Hear hear!! What is 150 in terms of BMI for you? If its in normal range, forget them. I would also tell them hey you're hurting me saying that. Why do you not want to support me?

Idk what 150 is in bmi

But that's my goal and my surgeon said it's fine. .

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When you say "your family" wants you to stop losing weight -- do you mean your parents, your husband and children, your siblings, your grandmother?

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gruiz27    219

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When you say "your family" wants you to stop losing weight -- do you mean your parents, your husband and children, your siblings, your grandmother?

Aunt.. step mom ...dad...

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Jeannette Anndaisia    10

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Don't listen to them on that.They are so used to seeing you at that weight that now you look strange to them. You lose as much as you want. Later on they will readjust to the new you. I remember when I first got my lap band. Some friends actually said "ill" at the thought of seeing me at a normal weight. Besides that, it is not as if you have a whole lot of choice. What's done is done.You had the surgery. Short of sabotaging yourself by taking in a lot high calories, you are going to lose the weight.

Congratulations!

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InfiniteButterfly    438

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You and your doctor know what's best for you. Stick to your guns. They'll get used to the new you :)

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Agreed. Tell them you are under a doctors' care who is a specialist in this.

5'7" and 150 is fine.

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unbesleevable1    420

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Eff them! Not their body, or their journey. Tell them, thanks for sharing, and shut the eff up. ok you can tell them the last part quietly to yourself. or not. they're probably fat also.

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vanessak8    158

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I'm 20 years old and had the sleeve in feb 6 2014 I've lost 100 pounds so far and most of my family is telling me stop and stay where I'm at because I'm not going look good if I keep loosing. And this is hurting my feelings .. my set goal is 150 I'm at 225 and I started at 326.

Change is difficult... You are changing and that means they will have to when it come to interacting with you... It's not nice to hear your family is supporting you but you have to do what you feel is right for yourself and eventually they will get on board.

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I'm 20 years old and had the sleeve in feb 6 2014 I've lost 100 pounds so far and most of my family is telling me stop and stay where I'm at because I'm not going look good if I keep loosing. And this is hurting my feelings .. my set goal is 150 I'm at 225 and I started at 326.

Change is difficult... You are changing and that means they will have to when it come to interacting with you... It's not nice to hear your family is not supporting you but you have to do what you feel is right for yourself and eventually they will get on board.

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vanessak8    158

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I'm 20 years old and had the sleeve in feb 6 2014 I've lost 100 pounds so far and most of my family is telling me stop and stay where I'm at because I'm not going look good if I keep loosing. And this is hurting my feelings .. my set goal is 150 I'm at 225 and I started at 326.

Change is difficult... You are changing and that means they will have to when it come to interacting with you... It's not nice to hear your family is not supporting you but you have to do what you feel is right for yourself and eventually they will get on board.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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