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Hi All! Alex has graciously allowed me to post once about my dating site for weight loss surgery patients. I designed this site after input from several friends who have had weight loss surgery, myself included. Many of us are new to dating and just discovering ourselves and dating in general is hard enough, let alone after weight loss surgery. I thought it would be a great idea to bring men and women together who have both had some type of weight loss surgery. We all want to stay on track and we all fear regaining the weight we've worked so hard to lose. Finding someone with similar goals and interests would be great for long term success. www.loveafterwls.com was born!

loveafterwls.com is NOW totally FREE! If you were a previous paying member, please unsubscribe and rejoin as a FREE member.

Our site offers personal profiles with up to ten pictures, blogging, instant messaging, forums and more. Like all new dating sites, it will take awhile to grow our membership but come on in, fill out your profile, start a blog if you wish and help build this dating site into something great!

Please tell your friends, especially men. We currently have a lot more women on the site than men.

Visit www.loveafterwls.com for more information!

Thanks :)

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Thanks. I'll check it out and may join by week's end. But... Men...we need MEN to be there! :-)

And congrats on reaching your goal!

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I think it's a great idea! I wish you much success :)

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Good luck to you!

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What a great idea! I wish my partner had the mindset of a WLS person. It sure would be nice to be with someone whose eating and exercise habits were more in line with my own.

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I wish you great luck on this endeavor. But does anyone know what the breakdown is of men vs women having WLS? I hope you're not ultimately frustrated by the statistics of the population. In my support group - at a university hospital in a major city - it was about 10 to 1 women to men.

(It's nice to have the tables turned for once lol)

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There are 14 men registered on that site... ummm There needs to be some serious advertising. I signed up.

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We have tried some advertising but nothing has really worked so far. Between the site and advertising I am already out several thousand dollars. I'm committed though to building the site and keeping it free and am just eating the costs because I believe there is a need for the site and would really like to see it be successful.

I was really hoping for a lot of word of mouth advertising. I know many of us are in multiple groups and have lots of ways of sharing. If you have any ideas for advertising I would love to hear them!

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A good idea. But personally I won't date someone who doesn't live locally. So I'm pretty sure it would be a waste of effort.

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I am spoken for, but what a great idea!

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Jacil, my hope is that in time we will have people from all over so hopefully - eventually ... there will be people from all areas.

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Advertise on Facebook as well... make a page people can like, share & follow on there. That should help spread the news & advertise globally!!!

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The site is an awesome idea! You should set up a Facebook page, and start a gathering from that as well. I have never seen a weight loss dating site before. I am now single now and currently on OkCupid which is not a bad site. I am just chose to be upfront with most of the people I talk to or go on dates. I have meet a lot of bariatric patients on that site as well. I would do some research on how to market it through Facebook and also various other social media sites.

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You may have to expand it to non WLS big losers or even to any people looking to get control of their diets and bodies and health such as those fighting diabetes with diet, fitness. Although it would be nice to have enough bariatric patients the number of woman vs men is so high on the female side. Anyone who has lost a lot of weight or struggling with diet and exercise has the same issues with choosing the right foods, exercising etc even if no surgery. They just shouldn't join if they dont want to meet anyone who had WLS! It would sort of be a myfitnesspal for dating.

Just a thought that you may need to think about in future...

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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