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Aug. 21st Surgery Date and I am starting to panic



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I don't know why, but my mind is messing with me and keeps trying to talk me out of the surgery. Every day I realize all the benefits of having the surgery, but this little nagging voice keeps trying to talk me out of it. Has this happened to anyone else?

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I'm almost 2 months post op and the closer I got to my surgery date the more I questioned if I was doing the right thing.

Now, after almost 50 pounds down, with energy I haven't had since I was 20, (I'm 44) I KNOW I made the right decision. I am so happy that I went through with it. Every day is a gift now :-)

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Hi there.

I think it's perfectly normal to feel that way...I did, for sure. I waffled back and forth many times between August, 2013 and my surgery date, November 14, 2013. Sometimes I thought, "Have you really tried hard enough?" "Can you lose the weight on your own?" "This is so drastic!"

I'm now almost 8 months out and I realize, I wasn't going to be able to do it on my own. I tried multiple, multiple times. It's drastic, but I needed drastic!

This was the best decision I could have made for me. I'm happy I wen thru with it.

Only you can decide if you're ready - this is a life-changer. Do your research. Do some soul-searching. Continue to network with other sleevers. You'll know if it's right for you.

Best of luck!

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I feel the same way. It is nice to know we are not the only ones. Sometimes I see people so excited I wonder if there is something wrong with me. I am excited but super nervous.

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Nerves are normal. It's the unknown of what is going to happen. I ended up staying in the hospital for 8 days it should have been 3. I was fighting an infection from somewhere and ended up havin a second surgery while i was inpt to have drains put in and check for leaks. And even though that happened I would do it all again. No I didn't feel that way at the time. I cried and said what the F*** did I do to myself. I felt tired and weak to the point where I couldn't even get to the fridge to get a drink. I was not the norm for a recovery as far as the hospital goes. But at 3 weeks to 4 weeks out I felt better and now 8 weeks out I am basically back to normal energy and all! Best thing I ever did. The fear is normal you are doing something traumatic to your body that you can't take back. Nothing with having is easy. You will go through all sorts of emotional days and things happen to your body that they don't always prepare you for but I promise it's all worth. One day you will all of a sudden turn the corner and all the pain an waiting will be a distant memory. I have for the first time control. Control over what I put in my mouth and I feel good about it. Control over my hunger. It's freeing.

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Thanks everyone. I am really trying not to overthink it and focus on the end result. You are all inspirational. :)

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