Someone suggested to me that I consider a one last blow out before the surgery, since I won't "get to" drink, or have pizza, or have.....

I then made an attempt to lovingly educate them as to what is really going on.

What happens at a funeral? Do you party with the person and then help them into the casket, followed by "so long, and thanks for all the fish" as you wave goodby?

No. A "funeral" is for those who have already passed.

The idea of a food funeral is absurd. As such, the last "hoo ha" might better be served to involve healthy food and conversation, which solidifies to friends and loved ones that they are with you NOW and HERE, pre and post op, in full support with your new lifestyle. It will solidify the idea as to how serious and what a COMMENDABLE decision that this was by your part. It will certify this decision by you to CHANGE in the eyes of others in your circle.

We need to consider shaping how we think before the surgery, as it will shape how the rubber meets the road afterwards.

It's not that I don't "get to" drink any more. I chose not to because this is a life change. If I am going to leave a way of life behind me and truly walk away, I am not going to bring trinkets with me, including the missing of booze or believing that it is important to any degree.

It's not that I don't "get to" gorge myself with pizza any more. If I am going to stop being a slave to food, I am going to break those chains before I even get into the surgery gown.

In fact, we have to let these things go ... truly part ways with them emotionally... BEFORE the surgery.

Using the "food funeral" analogy, is one night of partying with old ways really the way we want to "check out"? Do you really need that "one night stand"?

For me, I want to "go out" as I intend to be in my full, transformed and graceful self. I want to "go out" as a person who has succeeded in freeing himself of old ways, shedding pounds and horrific habits picked up by social trending and years of self denial, doing things because I believed they would comfort me or somehow make me feel special (or to fit in).

I think my "funeral" will have small Snacks not unlike what I will be eating hereto forward, and some nice tea. It will involve laughter, and every element that I want to have post op in my life.

It will have momentum...

Edited May 9, 201412 yr by cryss

You can have all the things you want to eat eventually. Go out for a nice meal with your support team and Celebrate your life-improving decision. I've done well after 3 months and am happy I did this. Good for you too!