Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Mentor/ Buddy Needed



Recommended Posts

Hi! I'm new here. I was in the final stages of my pre surgery work at one practice and then had to move. So now I have a new practice and new insurance, and they are having to figure out what will and won't transfer. I would love a mentor or buddy, I am going to have the sleeve surgery. I do not have a date yet.

Thanks!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

new here

@@lylmousy

welcome, welcome and welcome :)

you need/want a buddy/mentor??

what are we??

chopped liver!!! :D :D

we're all here to give info, support

ask away with questions about pre-surgery diet

ask questions about what to expect post op too

rules you need to know and follow after surgery for the rest of your life

read posts/answers/questions from others

find who to relate to, and YOU make the first move

can't alway wait for the "other" person

maybe finding another NEWBIE (you are all around :) )would be good to talk to

sharing your similar problems/situations that you are both going through

hope you won't have to repeat tests, 6 month pre-op diet et al since you've moved

good luck with surgery

speedy recovery

kathy

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I don't have a date as of yet either. I'm reading as much info as I can here. Everything has been helpful. I'm excited, anxious and nervous. I'm seeing dr Fontana and he seems to be great. I'm concerned with the preop diet I've been reading it's all liquids. What happens if I slip up and eat something, would the surgery be cancelled?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I don't have a date as of yet either. I'm reading as much info as I can here. Everything has been helpful. I'm excited, anxious and nervous. I'm seeing dr Fontana and he seems to be great. I'm concerned with the preop diet I've been reading it's all liquids. What happens if I slip up and eat something, would the surgery be cancelled?

You can do this! Focus on the end result! I'm in the middle of my pre op 6 months wait. July is my surgery month. No room for failure. I'm all in. But if a slip up happens we have to get right back up and give it all we have! There's so many wonderful people on here sharing information no doctor could ever give us. They have had 1st hand experiences with all that we are currently going through and those yet to come! I'm on here what seems non stop trying to absorb all that I can. Good luck with your journey.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi,

If you are referring to Mark Fontana in Norfolk, Va. check out my blog and email me.

The pre op diet, are you referring the week before surgery? It depends. If you eat a meal 12 hours before hand and its still being digested, then expect there will be a problem. I can tell you many have gone thru that week long diet that is not all liquid and still made it.

Seriously for your own health, I would not do it. If you have food in your intestine and you get opened up, if the intestine is nicked, you can easily spill those contents in the abdomen and get life threatening complications.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have told no one about my pending surgery except my hubby and daughters. Hubby is fine with it. One daughter is on board and actually working to get ins. acceptance for herself. The other daughter is a nurse practitioner and NOT happy at all about my decision to do this. I am scared to death, but going forward none-the-less. I have to make up my own mind Cuz it is my body! I read the posts here and they give me strength to go forward. I am located in Gig Harbor WA. Any buddies/mentors in this area? I would love to have a friend in my area to share this experience with. I call on Monday to set the surgery date. Just got the insurance approval 2 days ago. Surgeon is located in Federal Way, WA....Franciscan Hospital.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Why isnt' your daughter that is the NP fine with it? I mean, medically speaking, what is her professional problem? I could help with research if you need it.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

She thinks following a diet and exercising is the answer and that regardless of having surgery I will still have to follow a strict diet etc. so why put myself through what could be potentially dangerous surgery. For me, I have lost many many many pounds over the years but have consistently gained the weight back each time I fall off the "diet of the week." I am at the highest weight I have ever been despite this yoyo dieting over the past 60 years! I am hoping that this surgery will be the tool to help me establish better food choices and certainly control portion sizes, calorie intake etc. Diets are not easy when you are HUNGRY!!!!! WLS is the tool that can help me with the hunger. Yes, the rest is up to me. I am fully aware of that.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Ok do you need medical research you can point her to that says the surgery beats diet and exercise hands down?

Um yes and no, but it is easier when your body isn't working against you. As for dangerous, the level now is down to hip replacement in terms of risk.

Gaining back is one of the issues, but I believe it is in the range of 20-30% who gain back, even still what is wrong with a 70-80% chance of getting and keeping it off?

You hit the nail on the head! I mean the leptin produced by the stomach is less, and once you are smaller you can start to exercise more, helping you to keep weight lower.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I agree... I will have to prove it to her via results!!! I will meet that goal!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 1 reply
      1. Phil Penn

        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×