Don't know why...

[anonemouse 1]

I don't know why I keep going to ObesityHelp.com. It is seriously RNY-centered over there. Every time someone posts a question about Lap-bands in the main forum, they get sent off like a leper to the Lap-band forum. It's like they give bandsters their own little corner of OH and then expect them to stay there and never come out. On April 1st, one of the guys from the band board went and posted on the main board. It was meant to be both an April Fools joke and a poke at the RNYers that act like their surgery is the best surgery to have. Of course, it started all sorts of crap. People were flaming each other and the thread got locked. Now the lap-band forum has a stickied post at the top, reminding all who post there that the whole point of OH is acceptance, yadda, yadda, yadda. Of course, there isn't a post like that in the RNY forum or in the main forum. Only the Lap-Band forum deserved to be scolded as a whole, apparently. Pisses me off to no end, especially since a some of the RNY folks who post in the main forum like to make outright mean and misinforming posts about the lap-band and the people who have that surgery.

[She Smiles 2]

Why not just stay here then, where the folks ARE accepting and don't have to be reminded of that by a sticky??? I come to LBT for support and friendship and thats what I get. I deliberately started avoiding an Aussie forum I was directed to pre-op because the environment and attitude didn't appeal to me and I've been happy here since :clap2:

I guess we are all a little protective of what has worked for us (or we will make work for us), but pooh poohing every other obesity surgery just isn't fair, especially when there is a lap band section on that board. Surely that means that the intention is that lap banders will frequent it? (I've never been over there myself). If the main board isn't labeled RNY then I would think that lapbanders are welcome there too......you'd think anyway....

Anyway I love that we know we are always welcome here

[Morsaille 4]

The only reason I use OH at all is the clothing exchange, and I didn't get the last item after I'd sent shipping. Hope she's alright...

I noticed right away that the boards are highly populated by RnY'ers.

Love me some LBT and B2G!

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

OH sucks donkey peeters. LBT rocks!

If you aren't a nurse that agrees with the Lap band RN regular, you are dirt. Period the end.

Just don't go over there. My opinion, of course.

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

The only reason I use OH at all is the clothing exchange, and I didn't get the last item after I'd sent shipping. Hope she's alright...

I noticed right away that the boards are highly populated by RnY'ers.

Love me some LBT and B2G!

Jeremy in the exercise forum is wayyy cool! I do adore him, and he's OH staff.

My subscriptions are all messed up and I was able to speak with the editor of OH today. I told him flat out that OH is for bypass and not banded folks. He agreed and admitted they are trying to change that. I explained I'd believe it when I see it. I told him that if it wasn't for Jeremy I would end my subscription and tell them to buggar off. He understands.

I don't care for the forum, but Jeremy in the exercise forum is very cool.

[anonemouse 1]

Yeah, I think I'll stay here in the future. I love this place, because 99.9% of the people here are supportive of each other. The format of the board is a big plus to me, too. That's one reason why I'm not an often visitor to OH, just because the format of the board gets on one of my few remaining nerves.

The people over there are just so confrontational with each other over stupid stuff. Apparently, the fight over Protein supplements is an ongoing on. Here, at least, we can disagree over topics in the RnR forum and still give wonderful support to each other.

[Carlene 12]

OH sucks donkey peeters. LBT rocks!

If you aren't a nurse that agrees with the Lap band RN regular, you are dirt. Period the end.

Just don't go over there. My opinion, of course.

She makes me CRAZY! I don't go to her Yahoo group for the same reason. I say "her" Yahoo group because she started her own, after getting "kicked off " another one.

[lisah25 3]

I've never been fond of OH, only because I didn't like the software they ran on. And I just feel more "at home" here. I have always had the sense that it is more for RNY patients also.

[Wheetsin 714]

Wow. I haven't been to OH in probably a year, maybe a little more. For me, it's just too hard to use. I can't figure out where to go, or how to get back to where I was. And I'm big on usability, so if it isn't high, I don't waste my time.

I think I have about 3 posts there. The main reason I went was to read the surgeon reviews. I also read through the memorials looking for a LB person (which I never found). All of this was pre-pre-pre-op.

I heard about OH through MTV, actually. I watch a show called "True Life" and one of the episodes was about people who had bypass. I saw a girl on the show and was curious about how she was doing, so I googled and found her personal site. Her personal site had a link to OH (I think she's a mod or something there). She and I exchanged some emails, but I never was active on the board.

Doesn't sound like I want to be, from these reports. But the posts I did make were fine and I got a lot of responses.

[musicalmomma 1]

yeah, I didn't like OH from the get go. It's not an easily navigated site either! I've found the RNY'rs on the whole feel that lapband is inferior. I don't really know why. I went to a support group at my surgeon's office a few weeks back and one of the RNY'rs (who just got out of the hospital from a life threatening side affect of the RNY) flippantly asked me "Why would you do the band? I just don't understand it!" I didn't say much, but it took all I had in me not to say "cuz I don't want to become a self righteous biotch like you!" hehe

[ReneBean 3]

yeah, I didn't like OH from the get go. It's not an easily navigated site either! I've found the RNY'rs on the whole feel that lapband is inferior. I don't really know why. I went to a support group at my surgeon's office a few weeks back and one of the RNY'rs (who just got out of the hospital from a life threatening side affect of the RNY) flippantly asked me "Why would you do the band? I just don't understand it!" I didn't say much, but it took all I had in me not to say "cuz I don't want to become a self righteous biotch like you!" hehe

Or maybe "Oh, HI. How is the ___ doing? I was thrilled to hear you survived it. I had a delicious chocolate bar to Celebrate. MMMMM."

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

She makes me CRAZY! I don't go to her Yahoo group for the same reason. I say "her" Yahoo group because she started her own, after getting "kicked off " another one.

The only reason she even posts is to sell her snake oil CDs. She sells lists of crap too, lists of bad foods for a diabetic, good foods for a bandster, etc.

She tells people to email her for the list and when they do she THEN tells them there is a fee. I heard about that so I started following up her "offers to email her for a list" with ... "Why not just post it for all to see instead of emailing them to individual people?" She couldn't admit that she sells them so she would ignore me each time I would make the suggestion. Go figure.

I went toe to toe with her several times and without fail, 100% of the time, I would get at least 5-6 emails thanking me for telling her how it is. It never failed.

One time a woman had a fill. The evening of the fill she ate pork chops and they went down, she did not PB, but it hurt. I explained she was likely swollen from the fill and to stick to liquids for a day and see how she felt. The "RN" over there jumped in, said I was giving bad advice and the women needed to call her MD and go get a slight unfill immediately, as in that night.

I said I disagreed, if someone who is swollen can still get pork chops down and not PB, she doesn't need an unfill. She needs liquids for a day.

At 10PM the woman called the bariatric guy on call and asked what to do. She was a newbie and didn't know which of us was correct. The doc told her to go on liquids for a day and she'd be fine. The woman came back and explained the doc said liquids for a day and thanked me for giving the correct suggestion. The RN over there started stomping her feeties and insisting the doc and I were wrong and she was jeopardizing her health and band by not doing as she said. What kind of idiot nurse throws a fit and insists a board poster not follow her doc's advice?

It all boils down to the fact that the RN over there will give bad advice KNOWING it is bad advice just to try to make ANY other nurse look bad.

Didn't work. Heh...

She keeps referring to her "practice" and when you call her on incorrect advice she will change her "title" under her name to "Band Practitioner". Considering there IS no such thing as a band practitioner she is really screwing up if she really is a nurse. And, if she is a nurse the state licensing board isn't aware of it in her state.

She claims to have worked with Dr. Kuri on various journal articles and Dr. Kuri (Mexico) is quite clear that she has never had a part in his work. Not ever. Yet she continues to make the claims.

She causes problems non stop over there, they lose members left and right because of her and yet, they don't get rid of her. But that's okay, because the folks they lose come over here. She does LBT a world of service.

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

Doesn't sound like I want to be, from these reports. But the posts I did make were fine and I got a lot of responses.

Many of the members are great people with a heart of gold. Most of the members over there would do bloody anything for anyone. It's a small group of posters that run the boards and their pack leader is this RN. If the RN gives bad advice they won't even correct her, they just let her spew and sit back saying nothing. If anyone dares to disagree with this RN then they come out like rabid dogs protecting their leader.

It's insanity over there.

The problem (IMHO) is that they don't put the RN on a leash. I'm quite serious, I doubt you guys would let her get by with the disruption she causes. Actually, you have gagged/banned some of her pack from posting here. But they just come back with a new ID however, they mind their manners with their new ID. It's because of the way you folks choose to run the forum. That is the difference I see in the two forums. One is ruled by a pack of dogs and here it is a place of support and information. First time I came here I was floored at the difference in the forums and I started a thread on the tech board about it too. I am totally impressed with the board format, the mods, and the posters over here.

[anonemouse 1]

Is this the lady whose name starts with "Sandy" and ends with an "R"?

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

Is this the lady whose name starts with "Sandy" and ends with an "R"?

That would be her. The first ever "Band Practitioner" in the world.

I'd kinda like to be a band practitioner, perhaps I should start adding it to my sig. Sounds good! HA!!!! It isn't real, but it sounds pretty good.