having emotional issies. march 25 is the day.

[roses1223 13]

You guys I am kind of afraid. I think im going to loose weight and gain it right back. I have suffered with weight gain all my life. Skinny one day and overweight the next.

I can't wait until Tuesday!?!?!

[Cupcake 801]

Rosees1223 it is only normal to be nervous your going to do great, just take one day at a time.

[Recycled 2,182]

This time, after you lose the weight, the small stomach will still be small. So if and when it gets tough to maintain, you will still have the major tool that helped you reach you goal. Don't abuse it and it will also help you to continue to stay at your goal. Now stop worrying about what you won't allow to happen and concentrate on the effort at hand.

Edited March 21, 2014 by Recycled

[RJ'S/beginning 5,358]

Everyone goes through what you are feeling right now...It is a good reminder for all of us to have a little fear of gaining it back. Means we will have to keep on our toes all the time.

Following a few good changes like better quality food, high Protein and complex carbs, fruit and veggies...lots of Water and exercise.

You will start to feel like you have the world in your hands...

Your going do great because you are already afraid..A healthy fear is good! It protects you!!!!

Edited March 21, 2014 by RJ'S/beginning

[CowgirlJane 14,261]

I was scared to death... of many things including regain. Hang in there and keep coming back for support. I am so glad I faced my fears and did the surgery - my life is 1000 times better at half my former weight...

[Kittenheart 28]

My surgery is on the 25th too. I too worry about the same thing I am glad you expressed your fears here the answers helped me too. It seems to be much like smoking you worry you could backslide, but with resolve we wont let that happen! And also we will have a new tool to use that we never had before. Best regards

[roses1223 13]

Thank you all so much. I love d honesty and the support I get here.

[greensleeve 457]

I'm on the 25th too!!' We are surgery twins!

I think fear of regain is a good thing, it will keep you vigilant!

[roses1223 13]

I'm on the 25th too!!' We are surgery twins! I think fear of regain is a good thing, it will keep you vigilant!

I was just told that my doctor rescheduled me for the 31st because of other patients I am a little disappointed but oh well. I just need to get it over with ;(

[Mrs. Whatsit 33]

My surgery is the 31st too! I'm having second thoughts. I've managed to lose 20 lbs over the last 3 months and I'm wondering if maybe I should stick to dieting instead of having the surgery. But I know I've always failed dieting and always gain back the weight plus more. I already have severe neuropathy from diabetes and I have to get it under control, which the surgery will do. I know all these things. I'm just kind of afraid.

[Racheepoo99 33]

U can gain it back. But if u count calories using my fitness pal or some way to record what u eat u will be ok. Some days u want to eat more. Some days u have to make urself eat. I have no hunger or very little. I am 9 months out lost 93 lbs. I am in maintenance now. Eating about 1000 cal a day. Still working out. If u eat too much u will puke. If I eat sweets I will get sick one way or another. If I eat fried foods I will too. It forces u to eat healthy. U cant snack or u will gain. U will find what we call slider foods. That slide right thru and u dont get full. Stay away from them. Dont slip into old habits. I just eat very small portions just little Snacks and get satisfied. Good luck. U will figure it out as u go.

[roses1223 13]

My surgery is the 31st too! I'm having second thoughts. I've managed to lose 20 lbs over the last 3 months and I'm wondering if maybe I should stick to dieting instead of having the surgery. But I know I've always failed dieting and always gain back the weight plus more. I already have severe neuropathy from diabetes and I have to get it under control, which the surgery will do. I know all these things. I'm just kind of afraid.

I understand where you are coming from... I think of it this way, it is no longer dietitian and the yo yo effect, I am going to have a healthy lifestyle from that day forth.

[jdillon 355]

What is an example of a slider food?

[CowgirlJane 14,261]

It is absolutely terrifying to be sitting there on the edge of your decision. Many of us went through that.

Here is my advice as a life long obese person who was also really afraid of failing ... again. And has since lost 160# and is maintaining that loss. Click on my profile to see my before and afters... I have truly transformed thanks to the help of the VSG.

anyway, advice here... have you really tried everything? Have you done every reasonable diet (weight watchers, low carb whatever)? What were your results? Do you have the disease of obesity, meaning you have been overweight/obese long enough that you have physical changes? You maybe used to be able to lose weight but can hardly do that anymore? Are you hungry most of the time? If you can answer honestly yes to those questions - I am guessing that you won't be able to lose and maintain significant weight loss without weight loss surgery. If you have serious doubts if you have in fact tried everything, put off your surgery and TRY everything. That way, you will know in your heart that you gave it your all and you need a tool to help you.

I realize not everyone will view it that way, but I was honestly at rock bottom and so by the time I had surgery I was so OVER food as a friend. I would ahve been happy if they could figure out how to keep me from ever having to eat again (which of course is not the case!). I work at maintenance, do not get me wrong, but I worked (and failed) at trying to stay under 300#!!! Now I work, and mostly succeed at staying under 150#! My life is truly transformed into a life I actually want to live with so much potential and joy at daily things.

Hang in there, this isn't always easy, it is just a tool and YOU make it what you want. You have a lot of influence over the outcome. I had the lapband and did not do well with it. One of the things I learned is that I needed help and support and so I picked a VSG surgeon who REQUIRED 2 years of follow up. I had to humble myself, the professional dieter, and go back to basics and relearn how to eat and live an active life. It was hard to turn that over and to be open to it, but I am so glad I did.

I am also so glad I didn't have the gastric bypass or sleeve when I was first looking into it - I waited a year and even changed surgeons. The first surgeon was highly recommended, but I didn't like his NUT, I didn't like his program and I felt that resistance inside me. He told me I would fail with the sleeve and should have the bypass and I couldn't figure out why I would succeed at that either... That was a year of suffering to be honest but it really set the stage for my success as I knew that I needed the surgery, i needed the support and I needed to change my life. I feel that some sort of combination of luck, and guiding forces put me right where I needed to be in terms of the surgeon and program and my own brain.

[Mrs. Whatsit 33]

Thanks Jane.