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I want to touch on this subject...

I read so much about it from so many people on here.

Having your spouse/significant other/family SUPPORT is very important for YOU, right?

If we had it our way they would all give us 100% Support and back us up all the way. But unfortunately it doesn't always work in our favor all the time.

Sometimes we need to realize that we must LOVE ourselves first before worrying about everyone elses opinions.

YOU are doing this for YOU!!!

Be selfish for ONCE in YOUR life and do what is BEST for YOU!

At the end of the day, your loved ones will see your success and be happy for you.

And if not, guess what....YOU will be!

Remember everyone, we are doing this for our own individual reasons.

Joining this app has become very therapeutic for me.

I wish you all the best with your decisions, best of luck and a long, happy and HEALTHY life!

"Enjoy reinventing the NEW HEALTHY YOU"

~Jessica

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I agree...I only told 2 people my best friend and daughter because I honestly didn't want anyone else's opinion...or negative feedback. Now 50lbs and 5 months later...I am ecstatic! I only needed 60 lbs I'm almost to goal. My BMI was 35.7. But no more blood pressure Med's, little pain in my back and joints, I sleep better, stairs are easier..I love it!!! Great message Jessica..

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Thank u Msk...best wishes on ur wls journey!

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You're welcome and best of luck to you too!!

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I want to touch on this subject...<br><br><br><br><br><br> I read so much about it from so many people on here.<br><br><br><br><br><br> Having your spouse/significant other/family SUPPORT is very important for YOU, right?<br><br><br><br><br><br> If we had it our way they would all give us 100% Support and back us up all the way. But unfortunately it doesn't always work in our favor all the time.<br><br><br><br><br><br> Sometimes we need to realize that we must LOVE ourselves first before worrying about everyone elses opinions.<br><br><br><br><br><br> YOU are doing this for YOU!!!<br><br><br><br><br><br> Be selfish for ONCE in YOUR life and do what is BEST for YOU!<br><br><br><br><br><br> At the end of the day, your loved ones will see your success and be happy for you. <br><br><br><br><br><br> And if not, guess what....YOU will be!<br><br><br><br><br><br> Remember everyone, we are doing this for our own individual reasons.<br><br><br><br><br><br> Joining this app has become very therapeutic for me.<br><br><br><br><br><br> I wish you all the best with your decisions, best of luck and a long, happy and HEALTHY life!<br><br><br><br><br><br> "Enjoy reinventing the NEW HEALTHY YOU"<br><br><br><br><br><br> ~Jessica

Very true. Family can sometimes not get the full picture. While some r actually supportive others think they r being supportive by telling us what we don't need to do and the if u would just do these things then you will be just fine u don't need no surgery...that statement I swear I was thinking the next clown that says that to me I'm gonna slap the living dog crap out of them lol. If I didn't need the help of the sleeve and could do it all on my own then I wouldn't be morbidly obese doing this surgery dang it!!! Lmbo people r funny. I've made total peace with MYYYYY choice to have WLS and those who don't like oh well build a bridge and get over it.

Seriously I started this journey totally focused on weight loss but I've learned so much about me so yes I definitely want to and need to lose weight but most of all I want to live FREE!! Free to do what I want, shop where I want, and engage in any activity I want without being limited because of my size or health condition caused by my being obese.

This board totally rock and Im so happy we r all here for one another sharing this journey together.

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I agree...I only told 2 people my best friend and daughter because I honestly didn't want anyone else's opinion...or negative feedback. Now 50lbs and 5 months later...I am ecstatic! I only needed 60 lbs I'm almost to goal. My BMI was 35.7. But no more blood pressure Med's, little pain in my back and joints, I sleep better, stairs are easier..I love it!!! Great message Jessica..

Hi what insurance do you have? I have blue shield and did you have any other health problems? I'm 36. Something bmi! I went yo my first informational seminar the other day.. I know a lot of the basics because a lot of my family has had surgrey!

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I actually have Priority Partners...they were great!!! No other health issues....and I have no regrets...none!! So I wish you well dear.

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I couldn't agree more. No one and i mean not a single person in my life felt as though my weight was a big enough problem and they refused to support me at first. However I knew I needed to do this for me whether some one had my back or not and eventually they will come around. Well they did in fact everyone came together to help out my mom watched my two beautiful boys and my fiance never left my side in the hospital. and my close friends came to visit and show their support in numerous ways. It was awesome. They still don't think I needed it but I thought I did and that was all that mattered to me.

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Well said CurvyCakes!!! Rock on!!!

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Much success on ur wls journey VDennis!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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