Surgery scheduled but family unsupportive need help

[Heatherbordelon01311991 3]

Yea, I know..... And I know ultimately it is my decision but I just don't want to make the wrong one......I feel like the surgery would be a blessing I don't know what it's like to be "thin" or at least just a healthy weight......always been over weight and I continue to gain......it's depressing thank y'all for all the advice! Does anyone have any objections to me getting the the surgery? Do y'all feel like it would be a good decision? I just want a better life....but I'm open to any suggestions and again, thank you all so much.

[earnestclark 4]

Tomorrow will put me 1 week post op. When I first mentioned the surgery my mother rejected the idea. I made it clear I had done the research and had made up my mind. She decided to do some research since she wasn't going to change my mind. She became my biggest supporter to the rest of the family. Find someone to carry the torch for you because this is a major life change and your energy should be used for the many positive ways this will change your life.

[earnestclark 4]

Heather

If you were my daughter and were talking about having elective major surgery I would probably object as well. However this survey has improved leaps and bounds in your lifetime. This surgery is safe and doctors are specialists. Make them understand you appreciate their concerns and their support during this process will aid your recovery. Pick something you've always wanted to do but wouldn't/couldn't because of your weight (zip line, canoeing, whatever works for you) and make a plan with your family to all do it once you are post op. My thoughts are with you and you will receive so very much support from the folks on this site.

[Heatherbordelon01311991 3]

Yea, I know you guys are right.......they are just concerned .........I've learned that I'm just going to have to do it if they like it or not.......I'm printing out all of this and plenty of other things as well to present to them but I'm not showing them until closer to the date of surgery........I just didn't want to make a mistake by getting the surgery.........I believe it will be best for me but with my family constantly feeding me horror stories and trying to discourage me it gets hard ..........

[candy cunningham 5]

Don't let negative people bring u down. Do this for yourself girl. I don't know u but very proud of u. My surgery is coming up as well and I'm not looking forward to staying with my parents during recovery. They can drive me crazy! I hope girl u r a success. Best wishes to u. Peace!

[leimua 7]

Hello everyone! I have struggled with weight my entire life........well a girl I know got the sleeve about a month ago and she has seen so much progress......soooo I went visit a surgeon in my area.....I LOVE HIM!!!!!.......he feels that the sleeve is a good fit for me.......but I mentioned it to my family and they are so against it.......they fill my head with horror stories......like u will experience malnutrition, it will make you so sick, it ages you, your hair falls out, you throw up everyday, your bones get brittle and will break, and you will die! It scares me so much and I hate that they don't support me........my family is my everything .......I really need help! Should I get the surgery? Are all of these things true that my family is telling me about? I'm 23 healthy besides my weight but I am so sick and tired of being obesed .......please help

I am having the same issue. My mother isn't very supportive either. She thinks I should try harder on my own. But she is scared and in understand that. In the end I'm almost 30 years old and no longer need to live my life to please my mother. I feel this is right for me and so I'm doing it. I'm in the very early stages. I'd be happy to be a support to you! I've never been thin so I know how it feels. I'm completely over it myself

[candy cunningham 5]

Girl do it for u. Your not gonna die but regain anew life. My surgery is March 25th and my parents are pushing me to have it. So I can better my life. I'm currently 268 and hoping to get to my goal of 140. Girl take some control and do it for u. U will not regret it. My best to u honey.

[shadylady_57 54]

I had my sleeve done on July 29,13 I weighed before I started my pre op diet 266 lbs, on the day of surgery I weighed 242 lbs, now at 7 1/2 mos my current weight is 181 lbs.I had a lot of health problems uncontrolled type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure,high liver enzymes and getting higher, fatty liver disease, fibromyalgia, syringomyelia. Now my diabetes is controlled my even be able to get off meds,my AC1 was 5.My surgeon told me if I didn't have it done I would be dead in 7 yrs.It was the best thing I've ever done for myself wish I'd done it 30 yrs ago. Just take your Vitamins, eat your Protein, and drink Water, water water.. and walk walk ,walk after surgery. As for throwing up I didn't throw up until I could eat and it was high fat ground meat, pork chops, scrambled eggs. Still can't eat the ground meat unless it's the 96% 4%fat, and cook the pork chops on a roasting pan with a rack, still can't eat scrambled eggs, I can eat them boils, poached, and fried with Pam go figure. Just give them time and let them read some of our post. Would I do it again yes! We are here for you. God. Bless and Good Luck

[leimua 7]

I had my sleeve done on July 29,13 I weighed before I started my pre op diet 266 lbs, on the day of surgery I weighed 242 lbs, now at 7 1/2 mos my current weight is 181 lbs.I had a lot of health problems uncontrolled type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure,high liver enzymes and getting higher, fatty liver disease, fibromyalgia, syringomyelia. Now my diabetes is controlled my even be able to get off meds,my AC1 was 5.My surgeon told me if I didn't have it done I would be dead in 7 yrs.It was the best thing I've ever done for myself wish I'd done it 30 yrs ago. Just take your Vitamins, eat your Protein, and drink Water, water water.. and walk walk ,walk after surgery. As for throwing up I didn't throw up until I could eat and it was high fat ground meat, pork chops, scrambled eggs. Still can't eat the ground meat unless it's the 96% 4%fat, and cook the pork chops on a roasting pan with a rack, still can't eat scrambled eggs, I can eat them boils, poached, and fried with Pam go figure. Just give them time and let them read some of our post. Would I do it again yes! We are here for you. God. Bless and Good Luck

. I have high liver enzymes. Do you know if that counts towards a co morbidity ?

[Heatherbordelon01311991 3]

It's so good to hear all of this!!! It means so much!! I am just having to jump through all of the hoops for the insurance to pay.....but I am nervous.....but I honestly feel like it is a good decision for me......thank y'all so much for the support ......I wanted to break down acer my family attacked me with all the negatives..... It feels great to have support! Hugs and kisses everyone!

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

It's so good to hear all of this!!! It means so much!! I am just having to jump through all of the hoops for the insurance to pay.....but I am nervous.....but I honestly feel like it is a good decision for me......thank y'all so much for the support ......I wanted to break down acer my family attacked me with all the negatives..... It feels great to have support! Hugs and kisses everyone!

I am 67 years old and after 10 years of research we did the sleeve and after 4 months it has only gotten better. Live YOUR life. You only have one!