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Hi everyone. I have had two fills. I have lost about 30 pounds in total, but between the last fill and this one, I have not. I have maybe gained a pound even! I know what I have to do, but I'm embarrassed to go for a fill since I haven't lost. Anyone else feel this way ever ? I was banded nov 25 2013 and am happy, just a little disappointed in myself. I know I am not in the green zone yet. I know I am going to have to make pickier food choices......

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Honey, that means u need a fill...... nothing to be embarrassed of ....it takes time for you and ur band to get acclimated.... go with ur head up high... get a fill and u will move forward inure journey... good luck

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Thirty pounds since November is awesome!! Nothing to be ashamed of at all! Remember, your bariatric team is there to help YOU. I probably had 10 fills before my band started working for me. Hang in there, you're doing great!

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I totally understand how you are feeling....you probably dreaded going to your reg doc when you were sick just because they make you weigh. I have always been like that. Even with my band doc. I just keep telling myself that's what I'm going for and they are here to help me? You have done a fabulous job! Hold your head high and go focusing on what you have lost!

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You've come this for....had WLS surgery...got some fills and lost a nice chunk of weight...GIVING UP NOW IS NOT NOT NOT AN OPTION! Hang in there.

I understand the whole thing with poor food choices...I'm there right now and struggling. Every day is a struggle and a decision but I can't and won't go backwards....im trying to take one day at a time and move forward and some days are easier than others....but i refuse to give up.....I hope you will hang in there too.

Go see your doctor and get the help that you need. Like someone else above said that is what they are there for. Get there now and seek help so a 1 lb gain doesnt turn into something bigger that will only make yourself feel worse.

YOU deserve only the best...but you must reach out to help yourself...you CAN do it! Keep us posted!

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Totally get the feelings you're having.

Try to keep in mind that going to your weight loss surgeon's office is (or, at least should be) a different experience than going to all of the other doctors you've been to in the past. They deal with the issues we face very single day.

xoxox

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why would you be embarrassed to go get a fill if you need one. Your doctor is there to help you whether you have lost or not. If he is rude to criticize you then you need a new doctor. I would go get a fill no matter how you feel. You got the band to help you so use it.

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Don't feel bad! That's why we all chose lapband surgery because it's adjustable! Good luck - you are going to be ok - just make your appt - you are doing great!

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Never be ashamed! You have done fantastic!! You might not lose any weight every month, you know. But, go for a fill, you probably need another. Best wishes,make that appointment tomorrow. Karen

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Good for you! Let us know how it goes.

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I went for my fill, and they were very nice. They suggested severly limiting my carbs (until you get closer to your goal) and especially limit anything white. So, I am going to do that. Step up the exercise, and we shall see. I now have 4.5 cc in a 10 cc band. So, I am almost half way full? But I will not walk in that office next month with anything but a loss. that's my goal. It may only be a pound (hopefully more), but I am going to be more vigilant :)

thanks, everyone for being so supportive. My surgeon had to leave early which was fine becuase the nurse did my fill. It went great!

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