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I hear a lot of talk about wls being the "easy way out". And for some reason that confounds me people keep getting their panties in a bunch over that particular phrase. I'm one of them, I'll admit it. But I've been thinking alot about how I'm letting other people determine my feelings with that particular phrase, and I'm changing the way I think about it. I mean, yeah, I guess, compared to the alternative of being 110lbs overweight and struggling with health issues that I couldn't do anything about wls was "the easy way out". Why the he'll should we continue to do things the hard way, especially if it doesn't work? In what other area of your life do you look at your options and choose the longest road or the most difficult path or the hard way? So I'm changing my attitude about "the easy way" and I'm here to say, Your damn right!" And I'm proud of it. Just because wls is "easier" (HA) than anything else I've tried doesn't make it easy, but it sure is effective. Just a thought.

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They can call it what they want, but it's OUR way out!

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Great post. I have surgery in four days...as tough as it's going to be to wrap my mind around an entirely new relationship with food, as tough as it's going to be to stay hydrated and follow my surgeon's instructions to the letter, I still believe that getting sleeved is "easier" than my old approach to weight loss--constantly dieting, only to gain all of the weight back plus more. And also, getting sleeved is surely "easier" than the damage yoyo dieting causes to your body, not to mention all of the comorbidities that come from being obese.

My take on this issue is, when I get sleeved, I am only going to go through the rigors of losing weight once. It will be the last time I'll ever have to deal with the problem again and as long as I'm compliant with my doctor's orders it won't come back. I'm prepared to do this one last time. The alternative is to keep losing and gaining and never getting off the endless hamster wheel of yoyo dieting.

I didn't have this lifesaving tool before, but I will in four days. I never had any tools before. If this is considered "easier" in some way, so be it.

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The phrase, "easy way out" as used implies shame in getting an operation for something which could be accomplished some other more "natural" way.

It implies cowardice, sloth, and weakness of fortitude. It basically runs down the person it's addressed to and relegates them to the island of broken toys.

Especially egregious is this statement directed to those who have already had the operation. The operation has moved into the realm of things that cannot be changed. Any degradation now makes a malicious bigot out of those launching the nonsense.

Humans have intelligence regardless of the behavior of those that spew this crappola. Innate in that intelligence is the tendency to look for that which is both efficient and easier. If it weren't so most of the inventions we enjoy would not exist. Humans weigh out alternatives. We balance risks and possible benefits.

Most of us tried many times to lose the fat the " hard way". Some of us spent much of our lives in mortal combat with it. Obesity was killing me, I could not kill it. I considered it easier to get an operation than die. Diets didn't work, this did. I'm human and did a human thing.

If pompous asses consider that worthy of downcast gazes I will happily jump into the ship to the island of shame in their minds. I do not care to work for their acceptance, it can remain as perceived. I surround myself with those who value me and understand things, I need not make room for mental midgets.

My advice for those who have no choice, ( family, coworkers ), wait it out. Light comes slowly sometimes, give their eyes time to adjust. You take care of you. Show them.

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I hear a lot of talk about wls being the "easy way out". And for some reason that confounds me people keep getting their panties in a bunch over that particular phrase. I'm one of them, I'll admit it. But I've been thinking alot about how I'm letting other people determine my feelings with that particular phrase, and I'm changing the way I think about it. I mean, yeah, I guess, compared to the alternative of being 110lbs overweight and struggling with health issues that I couldn't do anything about wls was "the easy way out". Why the he'll should we continue to do things the hard way, especially if it doesn't work? In what other area of your life do you look at your options and choose the longest road or the most difficult path or the hard way? So I'm changing my attitude about "the easy way" and I'm here to say, Your damn right!" And I'm proud of it. Just because wls is "easier" (HA) than anything else I've tried doesn't make it easy, but it sure is effective. Just a thought.

I've been known to tell people that for ME it was, "Working smarter, not harder" for my weight loss, LOL.

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Yes! Exactly! My whole point is that it's meant to be degrading and so many of us take it that way. I did for a while even if it wasn't directed at me, even just reading about it. I made a decision to take it differently than it was intended and it makes a huge difference, ie; instead of the hard way? Screw intentions, I'm all about interpretation.

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