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Hello all. So I'm having a hard time adapting to the newfound attention. Obviously it's excited and flattering but a part of me is saddened by it. It's bittersweet that it took me losing 80 pounds to be treated so well. It took losing 80 pounds for women and men alike to compliment me. Don't get me wrong, I always had a certain presence and swagger (not trying to sound arrogant) but now it's quite ridiculous. I can't go anywhere without someone speaking to me, complimenting me, approaching me. It's overwhelming. I don't know how to receive it at times. I'm always polite and smile and say thank you. But sometimes I wish I could blend in a little. I wish people appreciated my brain, wit, sense of humor. I don't mean to whine. I'm just wondering if anyone out there can relate. If so how did you handle it?

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I can a little relate at being almost 300lbs ppl tell me how nice smell and look....sometimes I have ppl say you shouldn't be this big...and I know they are not trying to hurt my feelings but I say its a struggle...good luck on the new you...their are times I don't like the attention and trust me my cheeks shows it

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I am having similar feelings. People who gave me dirty looks before the surgery, now find me acceptable to talk to. In my situation it's no one new so I am polite (my child is usually with me) but walk away.

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Maybe u have more confidence and now more approachable. Anyhow..don't let that bother u that u r getting attention ( sometimes unwanted ) U r a very attractive person ..so continue swaggering :)

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I say if you got it, swagger on hot stuff! :D

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Hello all. So I'm having a hard time adapting to the newfound attention. Obviously it's excited and flattering but a part of me is saddened by it. It's bittersweet that it took me losing 80 pounds to be treated so well. It took losing 80 pounds for women and men alike to compliment me. Don't get me wrong, I always had a certain presence and swagger (not trying to sound arrogant) but now it's quite ridiculous. I can't go anywhere without someone speaking to me, complimenting me, approaching me. It's overwhelming. I don't know how to receive it at times. I'm always polite and smile and say thank you. But sometimes I wish I could blend in a little. I wish people appreciated my brain, wit, sense of humor. I don't mean to whine. I'm just wondering if anyone out there can relate. If so how did you handle it?

Sorry Hon, but when you look like you do, you're gonna get attention. Enjoy it.

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I so can relate! I know I still have more to loose but all the attention is a little overwhelming! Don't get me wrong it feels great hearing how good I look, but there are days where I don't wanna hear it because its redundant. One thing that I have issues with is when I go out to the bar now, before I could go out and have hardly anybody talk to me or dance. Now I have a sea of people who want to talk to me and dance. It makes my boyfriend a little nervous when I go out now since I lost 82 pounds, he says I am starting to look "too attractive" which I take as both negative and a positive.

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Thank you all. I guess that insecure fat girl is still in me. Lol. I'm working on it though. I guess I just have to embrace it. Just sucks a lil because I can't be incognito anywhere anymore. Lol

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You are beautiful!! Can't run from that but from reading your posts the past few months.... You're beautiful inside!! Don't let the compliments and flirts bring you down!!! You're an inspiration to fat guys like me ????. Have a great day Momma!! Bonita!!

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Thank you sweets. I try to be a good person.

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newfound attention - anyone out there can relate?

McVictorious

i also love those frequent nice words, but..............

when i am told how "great" i look, and its repeated a couple of times

i always think to myself

"so i'm the new and improved kathy???"

before i was the "old and awful"?? :wacko:

no kidding :(

i feel my self-esteem/confidence now is terrific - i feel great :)

but when i hear some comments like the above, instead of feeling great like i should.............

i can't help feel self-conscious :angry:

kathy

Edited by proudgrammy

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McVictorious i also love those frequent nice words, but.............. when i am told how "great" i look, and its repeated a couple of times i always think to myself "so i'm the new and improved kathy???" before i was the "old and awful"?? :wacko: no kidding :( i feel my self-esteem/confidence now is terrific - i feel great :) but when i hear some comments like the above, instead of feeling great like i should............. i can't help feel self-conscious :angry: kathy

Thank you for relating Proudgrammy. That's how I feel at times. Like they only like the new me. Had they known the old they wouldn't want anything to do with her. But then I have to check myself because frankly I didn't want anything with the old me either. Hence the drastic measures to change. So I guess it all comes with the territory and I've got to embrace it.

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