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Just MY crazy mind?

I Am scheduled for my sleeve 2/24/14 in Buffalo, NY with Dr. Cavaretta. My pre-op diet starts on Friday 2/14.

I am definitely excited, but also very nervous. "You never know."

I told my husband "just in case," I am going to write the kids a letter. We have 21 month old twins. They are my life!!! Anyways, my husband thinks I am crazy for writing them a letter and says I have nothing to worry about. I just keep telling myself "you never know."

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  • Hi Sabino, I am actually Sabina so that is fun. I wrote myself a letter and marked the weight on it I want to be when I read it (150). It's in my jewelry box. I can't really remember (three months

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  • You are totally acting normal. I was really scared of dying, never having had surgery before. I told me husband I would want him to remarry, etc. I think it is fine to be prepared rather than have reg

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I can't say I disagree with you. I didn't write a note to anyone, but I did fill out my advanced directives. I told my family about those directives and what to expect if something happened to me. Best wishes!!!

Hi Sabino, I am actually Sabina so that is fun. I wrote myself a letter and marked the weight on it I want to be when I read it (150). It's in my jewelry box. I can't really remember (three months ago) but I think it's a great big thank-you letter! Good luck with your surgery. Won't it be great to be able to fully enjoy those kids and to be able to keep up with them over the coming years. You are choosing yourself and your healthy future -- yippee!

Hi Sabino, I am actually Sabina so that is fun. I wrote myself a letter and marked the weight on it I want to be when I read it (150). It's in my jewelry box. I can't really remember (three months ago) but I think it's a great big thank-you letter! Good luck with your surgery. Won't it be great to be able to fully enjoy those kids and to be able to keep up with them over the coming years. You are choosing yourself and your healthy future -- yippee!

What an excellent idea :)

You are totally acting normal. I was really scared of dying, never having had surgery before. I told me husband I would want him to remarry, etc. I think it is fine to be prepared rather than have regrets. I worried for nothing, everything was fine.

Good Luck!

I, at the hospital's suggestion, made a living will. Your idea is very good,nsabino, because as others have stated, you never know! Best wishes. Karen..aka.kll724

I wrote letters to my husband and adult sons telling them how much they mean to me and my hopes and aspirations for their futures. I'm not a very vocal person and it was good for me to write it all down for them. I gave them out before I travelled and said that they should open them if anything happened or when I was in the recovery room. I figured that they should not have to wait for me yo be gone to know how much I loved them. My eldest said how he cried when he read it. But it did appreciate it too.

nsabino, I think you are on to something. Do it if it makes you feel better.

I went into the surgery knowing about complications but thinking it would not happen to me. To make a long story short, two weeks after surgery I developed blood clots and one turned into a pulmonary embolism. I dodged a bullet and was very lucky that I survived. I know my wife and sons know how much they are loved, but there is so much more that I want to tell my adult sons about life

I wish I had thought about the letter beforehand just in case I needed it.

not a crazy mind........i see it as a beautiful and loving mom mind

if it comforts you, go for it......(you will be fine however.....best of luck honey)

I Am scheduled for my sleeve 2/24/14 in Buffalo, NY with Dr. Cavaretta. My pre-op diet starts on Friday 2/14.

I am definitely excited, but also very nervous. "You never know."

I told my husband "just in case," I am going to write the kids a letter. We have 21 month old twins. They are my life!!! Anyways, my husband thinks I am crazy for writing them a letter and says I have nothing to worry about. I just keep telling myself "you never know."

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I'm happy to see that I am not alone. I have complete faith in my surgeon but like so many of you have said, I just want to be prepared. The kids are too little to understand but I will save the letters for them anyways so when they get older, they will understand why I did what I did!

13 more days!!!

  • 2 weeks later...

Well nSabino, we share the same date and it's only a couple days away. I have the same thoughts and feelings, I think I might write some letters tonight. Good luck on Monday girl, hope for a speedy recovery for ya :-)

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