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I was sleeved not quite 3 weeks ago. This morning my mother passed away. She had Parkinson's and had suffered through a long illness (7 years). I was her main caretaker, and the past week has been rough. Today my sleeve is in a total knot. The stress has been tremendous and I am sure it is affecting my recovery. It is difficult to eat. Any words of wisdom.

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I am so sorry for your loss. Be gentle with yourself. Just try to keep breathing, and stick to the basics with your sleeve. Keep sipping. Keep your Protein intake up to stay strong. Sending healing vibes your way.

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Thanks.. I will do my best to do just that. Still kinda in shock tonight. I'm sure things will get better after the funeral Monday.

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So sorry for your loss. It's never easy to lose our loved ones but must be so hard when your body is still healing. It is so important that you take care of yourself. Get that Water and Protein in. We are all her to support you.

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Hugs, Blessings

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So very sorry for the loss of your mom.

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So sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I know your mom would want you to take care of yourself so try to take some mental breaks to meditate and breathe throughout the day. Stick to your program and know that now your mom can enjoy your success without suffering. Now she can take care of you. Hugs

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I was sleeved not quite 3 weeks ago. This morning my mother passed away. She had Parkinson's and had suffered through a long illness (7 years). I was her main caretaker, and the past week has been rough. Today my sleeve is in a total knot. The stress has been tremendous and I am sure it is affecting my recovery. It is difficult to eat. Any words of wisdom.

So sorry for your loss, sending healing thoughts and prayers your way! Hang in there!

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Thinking of you today. Hugs.

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Thank you everyone. It has been the toughest few days of my life. Mom & I had a special bond. The family teased and said we never cut the umbilical cord. She was so very ill, but held on to be sure I was recovering well. She waited for me to tell her it was ok to go. I will love her forever.

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I loved my mother so much. She was the kindest person I have ever known. My brothers both lived close to her, I was the traveler in the family. I came home every few years. When my brother called and said she didn't have long I drove back to Iowa. She was out of it but waited until all three of her sons were present.

Then the angels came.

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Thank you everyone. It has been the toughest few days of my life. Mom & I had a special bond. The family teased and said we never cut the umbilical cord. She was so very ill, but held on to be sure I was recovering well. She waited for me to tell her it was ok to go. I will love her forever.

I love Gman's post, "Then the Angels came". A lot of us have lost our parents, and it is the most gutwrenching part of life. You were blessed to have that beautiful relationship with your Mother. You know she is soaring with those Angels above, looking over you. She is also forever in your heart. God Bless. You will need to take it easy and take care of yourself now.

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Sending my prayers and condolences to both you and your family(s)...While I know that it will be a journey yet for you to be ok emotionally, I hope that you are taking care to be ok physically.

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Thanks to all. Your words are a comfort. I am trying to take care, but it has been difficult. I stayed nauseated and only got something down AFTER the funeral. I guess it was a relief that the formalities were over. It will get better now. I finally slept some too. Maybe the racoon eyes will go away too.

I really appreciate the support!!

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