When should I tell my parents?

[davethesailor 0]

I'm due to get banded this Wednesday. So far, I have only told a handful of close friends but no family.

I don't live close to my parents. They are in Scotland and I live in England. I am however still close to them, my mother in particular.

I chose not to tell my parents, mainly because I was concerned that they would worry too much. My parents support me in everything I do and I know that they would not argue with me about it. My mum though, would privately worry and I wanted to spare her that.

Anyway, now it nearly time for the op and I;m not sure wether to tell them just before or just after the op.

What is your experience regarding telling parents and family and how did they react?

Dave xx

[bsoutherngirl 10]

I didn't have to worry about telling or not telling...I just told everyone and it made a world of difference as far as support and did I need it...If I were you and to spare your mom from worrying with surgery tell her after but I think since you are close your parents, their support would really help with recovery and beginning of new life....Good Luck

[slikchik10 85]

Personally...if you're close to them, especially your mum....then you should tell her, because she'll be hurt when she finds out otherwise. Secondly...what if, GOD FORBID, you are seriously hurt/die. Surgery is surgery...no matter how "less invasive" it may be and I would not want the last thing my parents thought was that she was too scared, etc. to tell us.

Sorry for the abruptness of this, but they are your parents....and you say you love them....let them know.

Just my 2cents :girl_hug:

[benbax 0]

Personally I would tell her.

She will surely be supportive and most likely be happy and proud that you are being pro-active and making a decision towards better health.

My parents are very supportive - they have worried a lot about my weight and all the potential health risks associated with obesity. They agree that this decision is a good one. That means a lot to me.

Best of Luck to you! :gluck:

[davethesailor 0]

Hi Everyone,

I've decided to tell my parents the night before the operation. That will be this Tuesday.

I'm sure my mum will be fine about it.

Dave

[HarleyNana 10]

As a "mum", I'd be mighty upset if one of my sons had any type of surgery and didn't tell me. That's my job as a mom....to worry.

I wish you the best, I think you've made a wise choice to tell mum, especially if you want to stay in the will, lol.

[juliegeraci 7]

My family was very supportive. I would tell your mom prior to the surgery if you can.

[davethesailor 0]

Update!

Ok, I told my Mum last night. At first she was very concerned and asked me not to do it. This her initial reaction though and after we had a long chat, she was 100% on my side. She told me she was proud that I was making a positive move.

Anyway, I travelled from London to Belgium this morning and spent the afternoon in the hospital, filling forms, having nutritional advice, blood tests and meeting the lovely Dr Dillemans. It all went ever so well. The Doc really put my mind at ease.

I'm about to go out for my 'Last Supper', then an early night as I am due at the hospital first thing in the morning.

Dave x

[juliegeraci 7]

Dave, good job telling your mom. That should be a relief. Congrats on your surgery tomorrow.

[dwill 0]

i loved having my mother there supporting me- even if they cant be there- support from afar is great! My family prayed my way through surgery.