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I am a black man, age 43 waiting from the insurance co to do what they have to do but I need to talk with any black men that went thru the surgery. Feel free to e-mail me. There are so many ??? I need answer.

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Any chance your questions are of a nature that someone aside from a black man could answer? Plenty of people here willing to help...

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I'm a black woman. I'm not banded yet, however, I check various websites. You may want to try www.obesityhelp.com to chat with other black men. Obesity Help has a forum called Black America Forum.

Hope this helps.

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I am a black man, age 43 waiting from the insurance co to do what they have to do but I need to talk with any black men that went thru the surgery. Feel free to e-mail me. There are so many ??? I need answer.

Ummm, I am not trying to be rude but I do not see what being black may have to do with questions you have. Almost all of us here are just like you, other than skin color. We all have questions about surgery, weight, ect....color is irrelevant in our weight. I am not fat because I am white.... :girl_hug: Sorry to be like that, but I don't want you to overlook friends because of skin color....

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Hi Agoody, Welcome to LBT. I am not male or of African American descent, actually I am female of Hungarian Jewish descent and born in Australia.:girl_hug:

I understand that coming from an African American background and being a male you would have your own unique life experience. Having said that there are lots of people here that would like to give you support and advice.

Keep in mind that most people who are banded are women too.

All the best.

Susannah

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Poor man! bombarded by women!!! We all just want to help!

:P becky

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This is a late response but....

I understand this man's concern for wanting support from other black men. He may be from a family or community where certain foods and customs lend themselves to a heftier lifestyle. While the African -American community is certainly not extremely different from others in our world, fat acceptance and food preferences for African-Americans don't always go hand in hand with the lapband lifestyle.

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Ladies, give the man a break...

It's ok Agoody. I am an AA female and I know what it is like to tell your family and friends that you are going to have surgery. They think you are crazy. Many people in don't understand that in our community, weight loss surgery is not accepted. It is frowned upon. Feel free to send me a message if you have any questions.

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You pulled up a thread that's nearly a year old, and nearly half a year out from any activity, and are telling people to give OP a break. That's actually endearing. :tongue2:

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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