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I got the lap band surgery back in November 2012 and have lost a good amount of weight steadily with kicking my butt in the gym and eating right etc.

However, due circumstances out of my control - had to have 1.5cc's removed because I was too tight due to time of month and bringing food back up. Then add on I have PCOS and Thyroid issues and haven't been able to work out due to hurting myself at the gym the last 3 weeks I have gained 20 pounds (which gaining weight is VERY easy with PCOS and Thyroid issues - I can easily gain 70lbs in 6 months or less if I'm not eating right 90% of the time)

I know this week has been bad and a portion of it is self control, not being in the green zone and able to eat larger portions, but even before that I had already gained about 15lbs - so how do you guys stay encouraged when you are going thru stuff like this?

Any suggestions? Because I am an emotional eater, because I am disappointed the first thing I want to do is the last thing I should do and that's eat - as it's only going to make the problem worse. I'm more than embarrassed to go back to my doc to get a fill this monday (but I know I have to as that is part of the issue that needs to be resolved to help me continue losing)

Just discouraged because I was SO close to being in onederland and now it feels like I'm so far away yet again :(

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I've gained a fair bit over Christmas. My band is loose and I've eaten around it. I won't lie, it was my choice, I own it and the bigger butt is the proof of it.

But I know I need to get back on top of it. Make the decision and start NOW. If I can, you can too. We've had our fun, now is the time to set our minds to changing it. Because it's that easy, if you don't like where you are, change it. Feeling discouraged won't change a thing. We need to decide that this is something we can fix and fix it.

You have to want it more than you want food, and the 'comfort' that food brings you, because it's a false comfort. You enjoy for the moment, hate yourself after. Break that cycle. I fall into the same cycle every now and again and you have to decide to change it. Only you can.

I'm booking in a fill on Monday. You have yours coming up. Make the decision to not sabotage yourself any longer. I know you can do it.

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Relax, take a few deep breaths -- you are here. That seems like a big step, as does booking an appointment. I'm new at this but I get everything you are saying. Holidays are stressful -- even good stress is still stress. But we are beyond those now and can buckle down. You're not alone, that's for sure.

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It's all good. Just reset again on January 2nd and hit it hard. Don't beat yourself up over the Holidays. Even thin people put on a few lbs. It would be great if we were all unfeeling mind numbed robots but many of us aren't. So, shrug it off and find that motivation again in the New Year.

I highly recommend cleaning out the pantry and fridge to avoid any more temptations? I've already started.

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i set a new goal for myself. perhaps this would work for you too. mine is a 5month goal to lose 40lbs. more by my year anniversary. i will be happy losing each month but i am going to be extra motivated so i can reach that goal. good luck. you are dealing with a lot but you will be mentally healthier if you at least eat healthy and walk everyday.

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i set a new goal for myself. perhaps this would work for you too. mine is a 5month goal to lose 40lbs. more by my year anniversary. i will be happy losing each month but i am going to be extra motivated so i can reach that goal. good luck. you are dealing with a lot but you will be mentally healthier if you at least eat healthy and walk everyday.

I've done the same thing except I've set 3 or 4 smaller goals which lead to the big goal. Landmarks of sorts. I have a New Years goal, a March birthday goal, a May bandiversary goal and then a final goal. I will try my hardest to reach these goals but won't be devastation if I miss it by a little.

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