Love After Vs

[TopNotchMami 11]

Only one month after surgery and I'm getting hit on everyday. Wtf was I really that fat before. I still ain't skinny yet.

[Arts137 1,811]

Well, enjoy it! There are also some GREAT posts here that discuss these new "attention" realities, and they may help you deal...

[2Big2Skate 328]

Congrats on the positive changes!

[TopNotchMami 11]

Honestly It makes me feel as if I wasn't attractive before.

[erp 2,016]

I get more attention from people I don't know now but I think some of it has to do with how good I feel about myself now as opposed to before.

[PdxMan 4,292]

I think ERP hit the nail on the head. I found my attitude and outlook changed. I walked around with a shit eating grin on my face more often and people respond to that. I had women open the doors for me and say, "Hi!" to me as I walked down the street.

But I am also not going to fool myself, either. I was morbidly obese. I am not now. Yes, there is a physical difference, I'm not going to try to fool myself and believe everyone should have found me attractive when my BMI was over 40. Look at my pictures in my gallery ... even I can tell which person I would rather date.

[TopNotchMami 11]

I think ERP hit the nail on the head. I found my attitude and outlook changed. I walked around with a **** eating grin on my face more often and people respond to that. I had women open the doors for me and say, "Hi!" to me as I walked down the street.

But I am also not going to fool myself, either. I was morbidly obese. I am not now. Yes, there is a physical difference, I'm not going to try to fool myself and believe everyone should have found me attractive when my BMI was over 40. Look at my pictures in my gallery ... even I can tell which person I would rather date.

Your right I was 50 pounds heavier last month

[Roo101769 742]

I too have received a few...uh....comments. Of course it has been very recently because I totally overhauled my look. ( see my post about "What's that on your head") Changing my hair, doing my makeup and wearing clothes that are a bit smaller suddenly has everyone taking notice. Actually one (married) coworker has made a few comments that have been a bit uncomfortable. I just blow him off and do not take it seriously, but it will probably get worse as time goes on. Just a part of the experience.. When I lost about 36lbs years ago (2007 I lost 36lbs, but was still heavier than I am now) I got a lot of attention. It was odd because I still weighed 276lbs ( and was morbidly obese) yet folks treated me like I was some super skinny, sexy model or something. ( Not everyone, and not all the time) Now I weigh 262lbs but I still wear a lot of my old clothes. They are baggy and do hide my weight loss. ( 54lbs) But on days I wear things a bit smaller then suddenly the comments start coming. I just figure when my ego needs a boost I will dress accordingly...LOL

[Arts137 1,811]

I get more attention from people I don't know now but I think some of it has to do with how good I feel about myself now as opposed to before.

That is a physically and mentally healthy approach!!!

[TopNotchMami 11]

I too have received a few...uh....comments. Of course it has been very recently because I totally overhauled my look. ( see my post about "What's that on your head") Changing my hair, doing my makeup and wearing clothes that are a bit smaller suddenly has everyone taking notice. Actually one (married) coworker has made a few comments that have been a bit uncomfortable. I just blow him off and do not take it seriously, but it will probably get worse as time goes on. Just a part of the experience.. When I lost about 36lbs years ago (2007 I lost 36lbs, but was still heavier than I am now) I got a lot of attention. It was odd because I still weighed 276lbs ( and was morbidly obese) yet folks treated me like I was some super skinny, sexy model or something. ( Not everyone, and not all the time) Now I weigh 262lbs but I still wear a lot of my old clothes. They are baggy and do hide my weight loss. ( 54lbs) But on days I wear things a bit smaller then suddenly the comments start coming. I just figure when my ego needs a boost I will dress accordingly...LOL

We sound about the same size 5'7 cw235 all ass. I never got noticed before . Now Its out of control it is a ego booster but it also make never want to never gain weight again

[LouiseC 1,029]

I was surprised very recently by a couple of the younger and newer staff at work. This was at the office Christmas party and they did have a few wines in them! They did not know I had the surgery and did not know I used to be obese. They were telling me how much they love my 'strut' and how when I walk past their work area they also talk about my clothes and how beautiful I am. I was speechless at first and told them I think the strut must be from new found confidence, I then told the about my journey and they were speechless.

In fairness, I am the boss so they could be blowing smoke up my butt :-D

In non work situations I have been amazed at how often I am hit on. It took me a long time to realise that I was being hit on. Now I notice men check me out, sometimes blatantly, almost everywhere I go. This didn't happen before. I do think Itis a combination of weight loss, confidence, and taking mores are with how I look and how I present to the world.