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Today has been pretty decent. Pain at the suture sites as well as when I drink. I've switched to measuring my swallows. I found that a measly 3ml I can handle and I don't get pain. So as of right now all I can get down in a day is 1 bottle of H20 and a 10oz Protein Shake. I am down 13lbs in 6 days!

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Love that you've done this for us to follow! Congrats!!

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Just focus in staying hydrated right now. Also try warming you liquids including your Protein Shake. Yuck, I know. But sometime warm feels better than cold. Keep up the good work. You're doing great!

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Bad morning but not because of the sleeve. But its important to know that while you are sleeved and especially recovering things can and will happen around you. I had no back up plan. My husband was supposed to take our young boys to school this morning. Normally my job. He was running late and flew off the handle because he felt the kids (3 yes and 4yrs) were not listening to him. His temper went into overdrive and ended up scream at all 3 of us "I hate you and I'm never coming back". My husband is in therapy but obviously more work needs to be done. Not to go too far into the actual fight I want to show you that I was in that instant stranded. I got my kids to school and I came home and sobbed from 7:30am to 10:30am. Never once taking in any fluids and then the dry heaving began. Life swirls around us but we can't just time-out the recovery. I'm doing my nest to rehydrate now and make some sort of plan of how I am going to avoid conflict tonight. So far I have a friend coming with me to help pick up my boys.

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Bad morning but not because of the sleeve. But its important to know that while you are sleeved and especially recovering things can and will happen around you. I had no back up plan. My husband was supposed to take our young boys to school this morning. Normally my job. He was running late and flew off the handle because he felt the kids (3 yes and 4yrs) were not listening to him. His temper went into overdrive and ended up scream at all 3 of us "I hate you and I'm never coming back". My husband is in therapy but obviously more work needs to be done. Not to go too far into the actual fight I want to show you that I was in that instant stranded. I got my kids to school and I came home and sobbed from 7:30am to 10:30am. Never once taking in any fluids and then the dry heaving began. Life swirls around us but we can't just time-out the recovery. I'm doing my nest to rehydrate now and make some sort of plan of how I am going to avoid conflict tonight. So far I have a friend coming with me to help pick up my boys.

If your husband can't control his outbursts he should leave the house..

He is damaging two young children by saying these things more than you can just see at the moment it's said..

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I do see the gravity of his actions. 90% of the time he is an amazing father and husband. In the last year something has changed in him. He sought therapy for himself but he just started. I am trying to see if my friend can take the boys for a pizza so I can lay down ground rules with him. He has a place to go of he needs to. Its just hard because I am still physically limited and quite frankly, exhausted. I just wanted to point out how important it is to have a strong person by your side during this process if you can.

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LuminousLife, While i don't agree with what you husband did.. and he is getting help!! Do you think that he is scared to death about your surgery, recovery, etc? My dad - when my Mom was sick was horrible, and it was because he couldn't control anything and he didn't know what to do. Just food for thoughts.. Try and take care of you, keep your stress level down.. I know easier said then done.... Good Luck !

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I don't think it has much to do with my procedure. In fact I left our kids with a relative for a week so he had no responsibility. He was enjoying it. Never had a concern about the surgery. I think its just really him coming to grips with the responsibility of parenthood and that he no longer come 1st. It complicates things that we adopted these boys. We have had them since birth though and it was well thought out (or so I thought).

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Awww.. Time for dad to grow up!! Be strong, love your boys!!

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My husband and I just got into our first big fight since my surgery on 12/4. Ours was due to increased pressure and stress. He stayed with me in the hospital the entire time so we were both exhausted. I hope y'all work everything out!!

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Lumious, where have you been? It's been a week - Tell us how you are.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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