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SoccerMomma73

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SoccerMomma73    1,867

SoccerMomma73
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Ahhh dangit!! Better luck next time. No one likes an overly needy man. Explains why he was single lol. Next...

yup! Found out early, no harm, no foul. Was kinda fun being back in the game though. Briefly.

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terry1118    1,274

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The way I see it your laying down not standing up. Think of that as a blessing. My flapjacks which were 48g pre op and now are just empty I don't even know what to call them they look nothing like boobies look best when I'm on my back

Funny, when I lay on my back just my girls end up falling off to either side and end up in my armpits. You must be a lot younger. Lol

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terry1118    1,274

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My suggestion is to by some sexy lingerie. I mean the type that you put on and think DAMN I'm hot!! Then just relax. Most men are so excited about having sex they are not looking at the imperfections that we see.

It is so hard to see ourselves as hot new women, but that is what men see. When I have a man compliment me I think to myself oh if you only saw it naked. However I have realized that is the fat girl talking. After being with my husband through the fat years and now the beginning of my skinny years I realized that he does not see the wrinkly skin or the boobs down to my waist. He sees - oh my wife is naked - oh boy oh boy oh boy!!! Men just see things so differently.

"Oh boy oh boy oh boy!!!" Yup! That pretty much describes it. My hubby acts the same way my dog does when someone opens the refrigerator door. He hopes it means he's going to get something. Lol

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Mkmb2006    41

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yup! Found out early, no harm, no foul. Was kinda fun being back in the game though. Briefly.

So now you have time to practice being comfy in your birthday suit. Walk around naked (ok, in your room when the kids are asleep), look at yourself in the mirror and think back to where you came from. Think about how much more energy you'll have in the sack! Wait for a guy that's worth it, and then you won't even care!

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fabboo    2

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Girls girls girls!!! Lol!! We are such worry worts !!!! The right guy wont care!! I met a wonderful man, his ex wife is 5'2" weighs as much as my flabby thigh....... I was so worried I would be too big?!? I'm 5'8" with flabby thighs, flabby boobs, flabby belly, flabby........... all he sees is me when we are naked. My heart, my soul, my joy, my beauty. And BTW....... boobs are boobs to the right guy!

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MarissaAnn    4

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if he cant accept you then he is so not worth it. he should admire you for doing something so courageous and changing your life for the better!

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An adult relationship is not about wanting to "bang a hot girl". He is attracted to your every layer. He will be so thrilled that you allow him to have that experience with you. Just tell him you are not ready to do a strip tease or have wild lights on uninhibited sexy time at this point. He WILL still be happy to share the intimacy!

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Becoming Bariatrical    26

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@@mskami77 You are sooooo right! My husband showers with me and never seems to care that I look like melted goo. I've directly asked him and he says I will always be beautiful to him!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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