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Girlfriend you find someone to look after them babies while you are gone and the rest is a wrap. I speak from experience. Both my parents are dead and gone god bless their souls. I have no husband, no children and a brother and a half sister who both live in my city but are self absorbed. I prepped my home for surgery the weeks leading up to it by doing laundry, changing sheets and shopping for post op things like broth, Jello, etc... I packed my bag for the hospital and drove my self there. Hell, I even arranged to have flowers delivered to myself. I arrived and was asked a million times "who's here with you?" my response was "no one, please make sure my bags are brought up with me after surgery and in case of emergency call my brother" Sometimes you just gotta do what needs to be done help or no help. My brother did drive me home from the hospital but just in case I had cab fare on hand too! Shoot, people always think they need to be flanked by a bunch of family in the hospital.

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I am glad you were able to get things sorted out. It's also good that you have developed contingency plans. As others have posted, you can always have a cab take you there and home if anything falls through.

My only suggestion would be more for your daughter. If she would like to be there but doesn't think she has any option except dropping the class and waiting a semester or more to take it, she could contact the instructors she has and explain that class day no 2 falls on your surgery day. She could ask if it was permissible to miss the day and get her assignments. Most instructors/professors are understanding of these types of circumstances and are willing to make allowances for their students. This way she can be with you without delaying her education. It's just a suggestion, though. You know your daughter better than anyone and I certainly wouldn't want you to mention it to her if you think it wouldn't help.

I wish you the best!

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Young lady' date=' why would you tell food addicts to binge on candy? That is not funny.[/quote'] geeez lighten up dear.. Candy is not the devil.. You eating 5 lbs of it is!!! I guess you didn't understand my humor. You're such a killjoy RELAX!!

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geeez lighten up dear.. candy is not the devil.. You eating 5 lbs of it is!!! I guess you didn't understand my humor. You're such a killjoy RELAX!!

Girl.... I think you need a snickers bar! :P

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Just a thought. Let her live her life and u figure out how to live yours at some point "us" Moms have todo for ourselves first and stop enabling others to misuse us.

For you and Lipstick Lady let me say this: this is the Rant board and that's what I did.....after that I figured it out, so it was already over before either one of ya'll put your 2 cents in. If I was asking 'should I be upset' then ya'll words would be welcomed, but I Didn't, so your words aren't that.....welcomed.

Why go on and debate with anyone so close to their date (that's rheoterical). Just let it go.

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Girl.... I think you need a snickers bar! :P
peanuts break me out I will have some holoween cake please lol Wait I shouldn't say that i might get arrested by the food police

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peanuts break me out I will have some holoween cake please lol Wait I shouldn't say that i might get arrested by the food police

Or me.... I'm fasting on Halloween. How stupid is that???

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Girlfriend you find someone to look after them babies while you are gone and the rest is a wrap. I speak from experience. Both my parents are dead and gone god bless their souls. I have no husband' date=' no children and a brother and a half sister who both live in my city but are self absorbed. I prepped my home for surgery the weeks leading up to it by doing laundry, changing sheets and shopping for post op things like broth, Jello, etc... I packed my bag for the hospital and drove my self there. Hell, I even arranged to have flowers delivered to myself. I arrived and was asked a million times "who's here with you?" my response was "no one, please make sure my bags are brought up with me after surgery and in case of emergency call my brother" Sometimes you just gotta do what needs to be done help or no help. My brother did drive me home from the hospital but just in case I had cab fare on hand too! Shoot, people always think they need to be flanked by a bunch of family in the hospital.[/quote']

That was just my plan before I told my neighbors about my situation and they stepped up. I had no problem driving myself. People take one sentence and run with it. Thanks for your reply.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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