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I am going to get sleeved on October 30th. The main reasons being because I want to be healthy and because I have PCOS and it is hard for me to have a baby. I want to know has it become easier to get pregnant for those ladies that have lost weight? Or for the women that it was hard to get pregnant before their surgery. Just feel down I just found out 2 of my cousins are pregnant. I want a light at the end of my tunnel.

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Off-topic response, but I know how hard it is to see others pregnant when you want to be so desperately. I have 2 close friends with PCOS, both were blessed with healthy daughters after using Chlomid. (sp?) At any rate, I lost my preemie daughter after 4 days of life, and I've seen my friends go through years of suffering. You are definitely not alone. I was lucky enough to adopt 2 amazing kiddos, and they are the light of my life! Best of luck to you.

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I am going to get sleeved on October 30th. The main reasons being because I want to be healthy and because I have PCOS and it is hard for me to have a baby. I want to know has it become easier to get pregnant for those ladies that have lost weight? Or for the women that it was hard to get pregnant before their surgery. Just feel down I just found out 2 of my cousins are pregnant. I want a light at the end of my tunnel.

Hi Betty! I was sleeved February 2012 and after 95lbs down 8 months post op I got pregnant :) Now I have a four month old baby girl healthy as can be ! My pregnancy was wonderful n smooth no complications n only gained 17 lbs which I lost one week after I delivered. I too had PCOS n had bn trying for seven years to get pregnant. .getting sleeved was the best decision ever! !!! That's the main reason why I got the surgery. Hope this gives you more courage ;) hang in there! !!

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I have PCOS as well. The very first question I asked was will I be able to get pregnant. My dr said indeed I would, that the majority of his female pcos pts concieve very quickly and he suggested a contriceptive untill hubby and i are ready (we have a 2yr plan). My surg is Dec.9th and I'm going next week to obgyn to get on the pill and dicuss my fertility post op. I would make an appt with your ob/gyn

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I am going to get sleeved on October 30th. The main reasons being because I want to be healthy and because I have PCOS and it is hard for me to have a baby. I want to know has it become easier to get pregnant for those ladies that have lost weight? Or for the women that it was hard to get pregnant before their surgery. Just feel down I just found out 2 of my cousins are pregnant. I want a light at the end of my tunnel.

This is the exact same reason I am wanting the surgery as well. It is always so depressing watching friends and family go on popping out babies like hotcakes and then complaining about the kids when there you are wishing you had a kid to complain about. :blink: (Personal experience with a friend)

If anything know that you are not alone in your endeavor. Best wishes and good luck! :)

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Thank you ladies for yours stories. ... It helps a lot to be part of this support group.

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Definitely not alone. While this is a major reason for me wanting the surgery, getting to a healthy weight where I can enjoy my life and life with others is also a major component. I have PCOS too and have tried clomid once and have been on metformin. I'm hoping the new me will be successful. You're not alone!

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My doc refuses to try metformin or clomid with me. he said it would be unethical of him to help me get pregnant with me being 255lbs.

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Savannah...my heart broke when I read your doctor said it was unethical to put you on fertility meds!! I would find a new dr. Do not let him stop you from wanting a child. I'm in the same boat as you are. I've had four spine operations that made me overweight. It's hard to have a baby because of it. I've tried clinic and no success. I'm healthy minus the weight. My doctors are all for the sleeve and are very optimistic about pregnancy after the sleeve.

Don't give up on your dreams sweetie...get a new dr !

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My doc refuses to try metformin or clomid with me. he said it would be unethical of him to help me get pregnant with me being 255lbs.

Drs can be real jerks sometimes...get a second opinion...it's a natural right to have/want children!

Get what you want/desire in your life! Screw the naysayers!! Fight onward!

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I totally feel ya. A big reason I had the sleeve (March 2013) was to get down to a healthy weight and hopefully get pregnant. I have PCOS as well (but there are some normal weight people that also have this too). My sister in law is pregnant with her second and it's so so hard for me to be happy for them but I'm trying. Most all of my friends have kids and I have felt very left out for years. I'll be 30 in April. I'm really praying next year is the year for me.

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Same page as you. My lapband slipped. I was doing so good on it, but I gained most of the weight back. I never got to really see if it worked for my pcos. I will be 30 in June and i fell the train is passing me by.

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Pcos diagnosis in 2005, 2 fertility babies one in 04 & 09. Sleeved in 2012 ended up with a surprise pregnancy 7 months post OP no fertility my cycle came every 28 days before pregnancy 23 weeks pregnant. Absolutely thrilled it was natural conception. My fertility has been restored. Hopefully the same for you good luck!

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Cj how much weight did you lose?

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Cj how much weight did you lose?

I lost a total of 98 lbs before pregnancy. But I had gotten down about 45 lbs when I started my 28 day cycles.

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