Surgery scheduled for 11/5 - fearful!

[BigD35 2]

I'm a 40 year old mans and am 300 lbs with a 42 bmi. I have always been above average in size - just not this big.

So what are my fears?

1. I fear the loss of eating what I want in large quantities. I fear the loss of comfort through food.

2. Only my wife knows. I fear that my family will think in nuts: "you're not that big , just exercise and diet". I fear that I might agree with them - out of fear.

3. I fear being different -a freak. What will dinner and drinks be like with our friends? I like to have a few too many drinks every once in a while.

4. I fear always having to think about this "disability" every meal time. Will it ever feel second nature?

Anyone have any thoughts on my fears ? Are yours similar? Should I be totally without fear before I actually go through with it?

[susis 70]

I am three and half weeks post op and I also had those "concerns". I wouldn't call them fears, but just concerns. I love to cook. To me that is how I show my love to my family. I also enjoyed my wine, pretty much on a daily basis. (And my coffee)!. But my love for myself and my health was greater than those. I still cook, just can't eat what I have prepared. I have my own little meals. And yes, I have gone off wine and coffee cold turkey. Do I look at my wine rack longingly? Yes.....but I also look at the scale with greater admiration! dinner and drinks, .....and everything for that matter, will change. It has to....I couldn't keep drinking and eating that way if I wanted to be healthy. Don't worry, once you have the surgery, you just won't have any room for all that food!

[unbesleevable1 420]

it's fairly simple. Do you want to live an extra 10-15 years, or deal with your food issues?