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Cookouts, baby showers, holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, fund raisers, family reunions and even deaths in the family. All my activities seem to involve an excuse to eat (badly).

So my question is what the heck do you do for "fun" after surgery??? Just thinking ahead.

Oh and please, no bungy jumping suggestions, I'm not "there" yet, lol!

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I'm in pre op still and I think about that but I'm excited about being able to really life life to its fullest!

We went to my in laws last night and there was food everywhere. I made a Protein shake before I left and drank it on the way. Had no carbs or sugar and survived! We had a great time. It was nice not being tied or thinking about food the entire time.

Good luck!!!

Colette

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u wont be missing out on anything,,, u can eat any food u like but in moderation that what the surgery will help u to achieve :) best of luck!

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I go and enjoy the heck out of each and every event! No reason not to!

Mindset just shifts. I sometimes eat before I go If I know that there will be nothing nutritional but mostly there is always something to eat that is mostly good for me. I can eat whatever I like, nothing disagrees with me, I usually just choose not to eat the worst things.

Life gets better after sleeve, not worse. You just won't have to focus so much on food, you can enjoy the company!

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I started doing activies that aren't food related pre-op. So my hubby & I did swing dancing lessons. My dad and I do home remodeling, my bff paint nails or craft, my aunt knits. Etc.

Yes many "events" center around food but, for me , I had gotten to a point that I was ONLY attending bc of the food. I could care less about the "event". So, after some soul searching I decided not to go as I was generally miserable at those things except for the food.

Hope this helps.

allons-y

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I went dancing last Friday night at an 80s club (yes, I am old lol). I danced on and off for 4 hours, which I havent done in 30 years. And when I got up on Sat morning, no aches or pains, I wasn't knackered - and I want to do it again, lol. Forgot just how much I missed shaking my stuff...

There's so much to do other than eat. Apart from dancing, in the last week alone, I have been to the theatre, walked for 2 hours in the countryside and been to an art exhibition.

But I still do eating but it's more part of being sociable rather than the food. My sister and I went to a nice restaurant at the weekend - but it was swapping stories that mattered, not the food. Met a friend for coffee who needed a shoulder to cry on.

It's amazing how the focus shifts and you don't even realise...

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That is the amazing thing about this surgery for me at least. I can take or leave food, and make good decisions about what I eat now. Before I was a slave to food, and it did seem like every activity was all about food. In 4 months my relationship with food has changed in such a positive way.

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I have a birthday celebration for my 1 year old niece when I will be 3 weeks out. I am planning on playing with the baby while everyone else eats! Kids always get away with not eating at events--I'm gonna try hanging out with the kids more!! :)

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Surgery is scheduled for Nov 13th! This past weekend I had one of those social days...birthday for the grandson and grand opening at..of all things..a hot new restaurant where my son is chef de cuisine. Ohhh baby! I enjoyed the family and the company and basically ate half of what I normally would and skipped the cake. I was simply "aware" and it was the most fabulous day!

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Surgery is scheduled for Nov 13th! This past weekend I had one of those social days...birthday for the grandson and grand opening at..of all things..a hot new restaurant where my son is chef de cuisine. Ohhh baby! I enjoyed the family and the company and basically ate half of what I normally would and skipped the cake. I was simply "aware" and it was the most fabulous day!

That's what post sleeve can be but probably only be able or want to eat 1/4 of pre sleeve!

Life IS good!

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I am SO glad to hear all if the responses!!!! Was afraid I wouldn't be able to Celebrate like I did before bc the biggest part of the celebrations was the good food!!!

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I shop.

And I exercise, enjoying how much easier it is now that I am not lugging around nearly 60 pounds.

Plus, I enjoy my friends when I go out. First I find myself going out a lot more (someplace to wear my new clothes). I think that's partly because I am not so depressed anymore and put myself out there more. And second, while my friends are finishing their meals -- and sometimes mine -- I am enjoying the conversation.

I think you'll find lots of things to do once food is not occupying every free moment, and you simply can't eat as much as you used to.

Good luck on your journey. It's going to be amazing!

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You will find that you can enjoy events eat alittle and not really notice the food as the center like you use to. I am 5 months out and my relationship with food is 95% better. I still have my moments but not as many as time goes on. I went out this Sunday to BJ s here in California it's a pizza micro brew place. I had a small app. And was fine. The kids had what they wanted. Found out my bill is smaller now which is great!

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Cookouts' date=' baby showers, holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, fund raisers, family reunions and even deaths in the family. All my activities seem to involve an excuse to eat (badly). So my question is what the heck do you do for "fun" after surgery??? Just thinking ahead. Oh and please, no bungy jumping suggestions, I'm not "there" yet, lol![/quote']

You figure out the balance for you... I work night shift in law enforcement... Decompression is Whataburger or IHOP at 3 am with the shift. I have figured out that I can go and have a glass of tea and still feed my "need to be social". I have figured out that most restaurants have a good appetizer option or will let you order an al a carte item or two. You just have to ask. When I am craving Mexican food it's OKAY to have a single enchilada and 3 or 4 chips to satisfy the craving of the food AND the social time.

I have found the same applies for family and social events. Make a plate with a little taste of the things that are on your eating plan. And when it's time for birthday cake it's OKAY in my opinion to have a bite. My experience has been that I have a low tolerance for sugary foods and Desserts. So I USE MY TOOL. A bite satisfies and I am done!

Best of luck to you!! I am almost 8 months post op and down 117 pounds!! Loving everyday of this life I have been blessed with!

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