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XXLnomore    51

XXLnomore
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Having a bad night. Been crying and don't know if ive messed up my life. Still so sore after 4 days. I haven't taken my anxiety meds in 5 days (til tonight). I just want to sleep and cry. I know (I hope) it'll pass but I feel like I want to wake up and this'll all be over :(

Anybody feel the same at first?

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SoccerMomma73    1,867

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I believe most of us felt that way at smell point :). Major surgery, anesthesia, crazy diet, exhaustion, and for you no mess...it's a set-up to make you think you're crazy! I was an emotional mess for 6 weeks. SIX WEEKS!!!! At 5 weeks I looked at the other PA in my office and said I was giving it one more week, if I was still sad and crying in another week she was going to have to medicate me. Rest, eat well (as well as you can anyway), and try to be patient with yourself and this whole process. Also know that you are not alone, we're here with shoulders to cry on anytime. And no one else in the universe understands as well as we do!

HW 312, pre-op (RNY) 255, current weight 204.2

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XXLnomore    51

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I believe most of us felt that way at smell point :). Major surgery' date=' anesthesia, crazy diet, exhaustion, and for you no mess...it's a set-up to make you think you're crazy! I was an emotional mess for 6 weeks. SIX WEEKS!!!! At 5 weeks I looked at the other PA in my office and said I was giving it one more week, if I was still sad and crying in another week she was going to have to medicate me. Rest, eat well (as well as you can anyway), and try to be patient with yourself and this whole process. Also know that you are not alone, we're here with shoulders to cry on anytime. And no one else in the universe understands as well as we do!

HW 312, pre-op (RNY) 255, current weight 204.2[/quote']

Six weeks!? OMG. I hope not. Looking back, would you do it again? My son's sitting here, wanting to know if I'm crying b/c of him :(

Ughhh. It'll pass though.

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SoccerMomma73    1,867

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I'd do it again in a heartbeat!!!!! I'm sure it'll clear up faster for you. I was just a big old baby drama queen :)

HW 312, pre-op (RNY) 255, current weight 204.2

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mitzie46    116

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I had serious regrets constantly the first week post op. cried all of the time. I'm now 11 days post op and feeling much better. Hang in there. We are here to support you.

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ellaclairesmommy    0

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I'm 4 days out and having a very hard time. Trying to reassure myself I didn't ruin my life by doing this. And I'm starving. I have cried every day since. I know it will get better with time. But I understand you totally.

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XXLnomore    51

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I had serious regrets constantly the first week post op. cried all of the time. I'm now 11 days post op and feeling much better. Hang in there. We are here to support you.

Thank you. That does help. The thought of having to go back to work Monday is horrible! My mom has to take me to the store tomorrow so maybe I'll feel better getting out. Thank you. I just keep reading all the good postings and wonder if I'm the only one feeling bad. Anyway...hope everybody else is doing great! :)

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music1618    879

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You are 100% normal and it will pass. It is different for everyone. Mine hit me around 3 weeks and was there for about 3 weeks. I ended up crying at my month post op group meeting. Oh I hated to hear give it time it will pass, but those words are very true. I am 13 months post op down 117lbs and love life. It is worth it!!!! Hang in there!!!

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XXLnomore    51

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You are 100% normal and it will pass. It is different for everyone. Mine hit me around 3 weeks and was there for about 3 weeks. I ended up crying at my month post op group meeting. Oh I hated to hear give it time it will pass' date=' but those words are very true. I am 13 months post op down 117lbs and love life. It is worth it!!!! Hang in there!!![/quote']

Thank you. I feel better right now. Went ahead and took more pain meds (trying to get em out before work) and apologized to my baby boy and now we're rubbing each others feet! LOL. Just got a little emotional. I'm glad I joined this group to help me out and let me know it's not just me. Thanks to all of you!! :)

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Dorian    683

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Thank you. I feel better right now. Went ahead and took more pain meds (trying to get em out before work) and apologized to my baby boy and now we're rubbing each others feet! LOL. Just got a little emotional. I'm glad I joined this group to help me out and let me know it's not just me. Thanks to all of you!! :)

Glad you are feeling better! Just know that it is normal and we have all been through it. It helps to vent so come here and do that! We understand and you will get the support you need! ;) good luck you!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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