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I just finished serving my family thr dinner I made them. Baked chicken thighs and mashed potatoes with a green salad on the side. I served them all, grabbed my crystal light lemonade and sat down with them. Kinda sad because I wish I could eat but, happy I'm losing weight so I can deal with it. Then my hubby says. 'You should leave the table I dnt feel comfortable eating infront of you' I say I'm ok I can handle it. But he insist he can't eat that way. So here I am in my room waiting on my family to b done eating. Feeling left out. I'm exactly one week post op today..... oh well. It will get better. Just tired of liquids blah!

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I woulda told my husband to kiss my butt! That was very insensitive!!!!

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I woulda told my husband to kiss my butt! That was very insensitive!!!!

Yeah he meant well because he knows I want food but, the way it came out made me feel isolated :(

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How about 'thank you for worrying about me but being isolated and not feeling like part of the family makes me feel worse'. I guess that's better than kiss my butt :)

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How about 'thank you for worrying about me but being isolated and not feeling like part of the family makes me feel worse'. I guess that's better than kiss my butt :)

Lol. :)

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It will get better, u will b eating food soon! Hang in there :)

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My husband said I was starting to stare at him like our dog Molly does when he wants what is on his plate. It is only temporary and it does get better.

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Don't feel bad....my mom was here helping me recover and she went all out cooking tacos...chicken..enchiladas. .I mean you name it she made it..and I was fine...didn't bother me one bit. ..I wasn't hungry..but then when it was my hubby's turn to get surgery and by this time I was on soft foods. .he couldn't deal...everyone reacts and handles it differently..

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That was rotten of him. Next time, maybe you can heat up some broth in a bowl or some creamy Soup and enjoy dinner with your family. I sure hope he's not going to chase you out of the dinner table like that ever again. Teach him respect --- you have earned it!

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My family was the same way...they felt really guilty eating in front of me. At first it was really hard for me to watch them enjoy foods I knew I would probably never eat again, but 1 month post-op and I don't care at all about what others are eating! I just told my mom that food wasn't important to me anymore and I didn't mind being around food I couldn't have. She is still leery to eat around me, but I just continue to reinforce the idea that I'm OK with it. Your husband means well!!

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Yeah he meant well because he knows I want food but' date=' the way it came out made me feel isolated :([/quote']

Tell him he needs to be supportive even if you sit @dinner table

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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