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Scared! RNY surgery on Monday 12/10.

MyTimeToLose

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MyTimeToLose    41

MyTimeToLose
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New to this forum. After a long process I was approved for surgery and now it is coming fast, less than 3 days away. I am so scared, more scared than I thought I would be. Afraid to die and if I am making the right decision.I went through this process over 2 years ago and changed my mind before scheduling surgery and then regreted it after doing yet another fad diet that failed again.I was doing really good, looking forward to the surgery, but now worried since it is so close. I have 3 young boys who need me, but need me healthy too so that is why I am doing this. I started at 292 and I am now 272, I am 5'11" tall, in my early 30's. Anyone else extremely scared prior to surgery? Any advice/reassurance? Are you happy you made this choice? I will continue to read this forum all weekend, so happy I found it :)

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nikkiba75    276

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You'll do great just breathe

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nikkiba75    276

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It's totally normal to be nervous

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mytime    21

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I was scared s******* and now I'm 3 months out this still worried about my life some days. It was a very hard decision for me but I was looking at pre diabetic that's what change my mind. I have 2 kids that I worry about not having their mom so I made the choice to be healthy. And so are you is great is your fixing to start this journey just remember to trust your self. I'm lost 50 pounds in 3 months and I can't believe it. I truly did every day diet that was out there bought every exercise equipment there was join a gym Was on Weight Watchers lost the weight then gain the weight. Even though I have struggled for the last 3 months I know this was the best decision for me and my family and my health. If you need someone to talk to feel free to contact me. Good luck just think you're doing this great Thing for you and your family.....

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I was fine with having the surgery, but my has band was scared to death. The day of the surgery he threw up several times that morning. Just relax and take deep breathes.

I will tell you this your first few months are tough, and you need to remember your boys during that time. You did this so you could be healthier to be with them.

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I was scared s******* and now I'm 3 months out this still worried about my life some days. It was a very hard decision for me but I was looking at pre diabetic that's what change my mind. I have 2 kids that I worry about not having their mom so I made the choice to be healthy. And so are you is great is your fixing to start this journey just remember to trust your self. I'm lost 50 pounds in 3 months and I can't believe it. I truly did every day diet that was out there bought every exercise equipment there was join a gym Was on Weight Watchers lost the weight then gain the weight. Even though I have struggled for the last 3 months I know this was the best decision for me and my family and my health. If you need someone to talk to feel free to contact me. Good luck just think you're doing this great Thing for you and your family.....

When was your surgery, I'm 3 months out 8/27/12 and I have 2 daughters and I'm 64 lbs down from surgery

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worm2872    635

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I was terrified but even with my complications I got thorough it fine. I had mine on 11/19. I'm only down 18 pounds but I think I've lost inches. Should have measured!! I still have days where I question the surgery but overall each day gets better!!

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maria pepe    29

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Lol 8 months out from surgery. Ran the full gambit of emotions prior to the surgery. From excitement to pure terror. Remember to breathe. Now down over 70 lbs. I feel fabulous! It was the best decision I ever made for my physical health! I can now chase the grandson and keep up (he is 2). My greatest fear was he would dash into the road and the lard on my body wouldn't let me save him. That fear out weighed any fear of the surgery. I also go to the support groups! I have people in my life that have also had the surgery. They helped me through!

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mytime    21

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When was your surgery' date=' I'm 3 months out 8/27/12 and I have 2 daughters and I'm 64 lbs down from surgery

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I had my surgery Sept 12..

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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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