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On Wednesday, one of my co-workers said, "wow, you lost a TON of weight!!" I said, "well, not quite a ton..." and walked away.

It really upset me.

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Makes you wonder what they were thinking before, Idiots, Why couldn't she/he just have said. You look nice today, new top? Seriously why the word TON.

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I dont know... I would have twisted it around and said something like... I have some tips on how to lose a ton of weight if your interested...people are ignorant... You are doing great... keep up the good work

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I dont know... I would have twisted it around and said something like... I have some tips on how to lose a ton of weight if your interested...people are ignorant... You are doing great... keep up the good work

Good one!

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Sometimes people do not realize exactly what they say.... don't dwell on it they just don't understand or know any better. Your answer was perfect which will get them thinking ... The nice thing they could of said was "wow you look great" !!

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Just pay no attention to them! I've had people say on my god you were soo big and I'm not even 1/2 done loosing! Ughhhh

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Those of us who've been struggling with weight for what seems like forever are SO sensitive to the comments of others. We are used to dissecting comments and analyzing crap that people say....I kno bc I can get pissed real quick lol

Whoever said that to you will never understand (unless they've been there) why that could annoy the hell out of you. "Ton" was an exaggerated way of saying you lost alot.. I imagine they said that in good faith. I also think some people are amazed by how powerful an operation of kind can truly be...Even if they don't know you actually had it.

Who cares what they call it.. pounds..ton..whatever... the important thing is that you are losing and it shows. Now I would have kicked her/his ass if they said it looks like it wasn't working!!

That would have been a well deserved pure a** whoopin'. ;)

Keep on truckin', sweetheart!

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Actually..he was outside smoking a cigarette, so I was rather catty and reminded him of his heart problem and a co-worker who died of lung cancer last year at this time...I was bad, lol!

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Someone said said to me I only got pregnant because I lost weight.

I have three other children and I was over 250 before ans after them.

And this person is a family friend.

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Someone said said to me I only got pregnant because I lost weight.

I have three other children and I was over 250 before ans after them.

And this person is a family friend.

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Now that sucks. I was 250 when I got pregnant with my daughter. I would have karate chopped them in the throat, lol.

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Im sorry slowtogo, i dont understand why were you offended? did the person mean you lost alot of weight? Would that not be he same thing??? Im confused.....sorry for over analyzing....

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A ton of weight offended me as I wasn't THAT huge... And here is this guy smoking and carrying on and judging. It was wrong.

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Dont take it like that! Im sure it was a compliment! I know we are new at the whole accepting compliments thing, but we will learn.. Its like when someone sas you have a pretty face, they mean well but sound like a tard. lol!

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