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I felt like I was weird for looking forward to a surgery. I was saying to my mom the other day that just thinking about everything that is going to change after surgery I get really giddy. The excitement of the change that I have been wanting for years will finally happen and I will get to be like my old self. The only thing I am worried about is the psych eval. Not sure why but I am. To explain a bit when I see my self in my minds eye I dont see my self as a big person I see my self just like I was when I was 17 weighig 130. So when I do look in a mirror I am disapointed with what I see because it is not what I was expecting to see. Hopefully that will not stop the surgery.

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You arent weird. I looked forward to surgery too. It is life changing. Dont worry about the psych eval.. .you will do fine!!!

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Don't sound like a nut neither cuz they will deny. Try to be strong say"I want to be healthy"not I see my self like when I was 130lbs in there eye you seem in denial. We understand you completely. You want this surgery say good things. I want to live long. Maybe it will help me with whatever issues you have diabetics,blood pressure ect....

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You do not need to lie to the pscyh. Just be honest and you will be fine. I do not think this is that unusual and a lot of us experience this. I am kind of the same way, I certainly saw myself in my mind much much thinner than I was and so when I looked in the mirror it made me sad. I do not think it is denial just the way it is. It is not a mental illness of any definition, I know I dragged out my DSM-IV-TR to verify this. I told my psych that I wanted to look in the mirror and have what I see match how I felt about myself inside. I also said I wanted to be healthy and be there for my family and I knew this was not a quick fix and shared what I knew about the side effects and long term effect and the expectations I had. I passed with no problem. Generally the psych is not trying to fail you, they are sincerely trying to make sure you do not have other serious mental illness that would be adversely affected by GBS like bi-polar or major depression and if so to make sure you are taking the necessary precautions and under the care of a professional. Also they want to make sure you won't commit suicide after due to mental issues not discovered and that you have realistic expectations of the surgery. Some psych evals require a test and some do not. Mine was just an hour interview and it was no big deal.

Be honest and open and if you have explored this thouroughly and know yourself and about the surgery then you will have no problem passing. reading through this board will inform you greatly on complications etc, plus do more research on it if you have not done so already and you'll do fine. Remember many many people a day pass their psych evals so they can not be that hard. Do not stress! By the way I am a mental health therapist, I just am not a psychologist and have not done these evals, just speaking from personal experience here. Hope this helps at all.

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You do not need to lie to the pscyh. Just be honest and you will be fine. I do not think this is that unusual and a lot of us experience this. I am kind of the same way' date=' I certainly saw myself in my mind much much thinner than I was and so when I looked in the mirror it made me sad. I do not think it is denial just the way it is. It is not a mental illness of any definition, I know I dragged out my DSM-IV-TR to verify this. I told my psych that I wanted to look in the mirror and have what I see match how I felt about myself inside. I also said I wanted to be healthy and be there for my family and I knew this was not a quick fix and shared what I knew about the side effects and long term effect and the expectations I had. I passed with no problem. Generally the psych is not trying to fail you, they are sincerely trying to make sure you do not have other serious mental illness that would be adversely affected by GBS like bi-polar or major depression and if so to make sure you are taking the necessary precautions and under the care of a professional. Also they want to make sure you won't commit suicide after due to mental issues not discovered and that you have realistic expectations of the surgery. Some psych evals require a test and some do not. Mine was just an hour interview and it was no big deal.

Be honest and open and if you have explored this thouroughly and know yourself and about the surgery then you will have no problem passing. reading through this board will inform you greatly on complications etc, plus do more research on it if you have not done so already and you'll do fine. Remember many many people a day pass their psych evals so they can not be that hard. Do not stress! By the way I am a mental health therapist, I just am not a psychologist and have not done these evals, just speaking from personal experience here. Hope this helps at all.[/quote']

I know it's always best to tell the truth but if I was the psychiatric hearing Someone telling me they feel thin but they are over weight I think the person has issues. I don't want to start a debate I'm just being honest here. She should do what she feel it's best.

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Mami I know and what I'm saying is a psych wouldn't think that because what she is expressing is totally normal and not crazy or weird. I know :) I'm the same way

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If it makes you feel.better. I am bipolar and still passed mine. :)

New Life Started 07/24/12

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Psych evaluate for me was no big deal. Tons of questions about my life from beginning to end. I was just bluntly honest and answered everything from beginning to end. It took about 3 hours. I did 22 years in military so its easy i think to talk about experiences and be open. Psych doc said at the end you are very confident in yourself and know what you want. I don't think you will have any issues at all.

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To be honest it never occurred to me to be nervous. Maybe I should have been?

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