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Anyone having relationship problems since losing weight? Ive been with my gf for almost 6 years.. Since ive lost weight she is so jealous its driving me crazy.. Ive been told that couples sometimes break up after they go thru surgery.. Anyone else having problems?

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My boyfriend and I broke up a week after the surgery. Sure there was more to it, but I got the push to finally get out. New start to life!

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As a soon to be therapist I swore even though I new the statistics of divorce/breakup after wls... It would NOT be me because communication is my "thing" lol oh was I wrong. As my confidence goes up my husbands comments goes up too. I take time and effort in my appearance and it bothers him. Ugh its so irritating!

Surgery 7/25/12

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It juss bothers me... Shes a stay at hom mom i wrk all day then go to the gym for a couple hours she says im selfish for spending time at the gym...well the reason i had surgery is because i had 2 attacks so if i dnt take care of myself i could die...

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You might try to include her. Maybe she feels left out, like your starting a new life that doesn't include her. Just a thought. It's really hard after WLS. My husband was getting jealous of me too. We talked through it. Its hard. He told me the other day "you can't keep your Ferrari in the garage". I took it as a compliment. Lol

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Christi trust me i try i asked her to go to the gym with me or lets take the dogs for a walk and she always says no... I try to be extra sencitive to her in fact every sunday is family day were we all hang out.. I even started doing the house wrk and helping with laundry....

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Christi trust me i try i asked her to go to the gym with me or lets take the dogs for a walk and she always says no... I try to be extra sencitive to her in fact every sunday is family day were we all hang out.. I even started doing the house wrk and helping with laundry....

My marriage was going down hill also due to mental abuse. Idk what in the world happen that he haven't been mentally abusing me in about 1 month or more. Treating the kids good not calling them names. Here comes the shocker!!! Helping me clean the basement. He gets a reward I give him extra sex. He have changed a lot. Hope it continues. Now back to you... Sounds like you are helping & inviting her to chill with you so nothing else you can do at this point. Jealousy is natural/normal. I have to assure my hubby my body is yours. I'm not going anywhere. I'm the same person inside with less fat outside.

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