Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

My Daughter Made Me Cry.



Recommended Posts

So glad I read this thread true blessings to everyone with special needs children my son is 3 and has yet to be diagnosed with anything but we def have behavioral probs in our household I had to quite my job almost 2 years ago to stay home with him Bc he had over 250 incident reports in daycare they refused to keep him being a liability pretty much he bites everyone including himself he was slow with speech do they blamed it on that I had him evaluated at 1 they said autism no way we all sated while in the mean time I had wrap around services since he was 1 20 hours a week exhausting yes had him evaluated at 2 they said sensory issues and prob ADHD but can't diagnose or medicate until 3 or 5 in some cases will he goes back sept 18 and I hope I get some solid answers Bc he's getting extreme he was around teenagers I was there with family they were saying very volgur stuff well sure enough it's branded in his mind and his favorite things to say are hate u f**k bitch and so on also spits and hurts me I'm truly fed up I'm the boss and I show him but y isn't he getting it he as well is super intelligent can already start to read and count he has meltdowns over everything and I look like a parent who has no structure in our life at all which is not the case he doesn't care if tv is taken away his iPod or toys he has destroyed my house in tantrums literally pulled the door off hinges Bc it wouldn't open pushed a dresser over with tv on it thank god it didn't hurt him in scared for his future I have to get this under control before its to late if u can't tell today was a horrible day for him and this is the mess I came out to when hanging clothes up

Omg! What did he spill all over? Many people think it's easy being home taking care kids but especially special need not easy. It's a hard job but we love our kids & don't want them hurting others so some kids needs to be home.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

So glad I read this thread true blessings to everyone with special needs children my son is 3 and has yet to be diagnosed with anything but we def have behavioral probs in our household I had to quite my job almost 2 years ago to stay home with him Bc he had over 250 incident reports in daycare they refused to keep him being a liability pretty much he bites everyone including himself he was slow with speech do they blamed it on that I had him evaluated at 1 they said autism no way we all sated while in the mean time I had wrap around services since he was 1 20 hours a week exhausting yes had him evaluated at 2 they said sensory issues and prob ADHD but can't diagnose or medicate until 3 or 5 in some cases will he goes back sept 18 and I hope I get some solid answers Bc he's getting extreme he was around teenagers I was there with family they were saying very volgur stuff well sure enough it's branded in his mind and his favorite things to say are hate u f**k bitch and so on also spits and hurts me I'm truly fed up I'm the boss and I show him but y isn't he getting it he as well is super intelligent can already start to read and count he has meltdowns over everything and I look like a parent who has no structure in our life at all which is not the case he doesn't care if tv is taken away his iPod or toys he has destroyed my house in tantrums literally pulled the door off hinges Bc it wouldn't open pushed a dresser over with tv on it thank god it didn't hurt him in scared for his future I have to get this under control before its to late if u can't tell today was a horrible day for him and this is the mess I came out to when hanging clothes up

I wouldn't wish this behavior on anyone but its somehow comforting to know I'm not alone. So far we haven't found any rhyme or reason with Hannah. I guess some kids are just born this way. Hannah has thrown a fit so bad before that she literally knocked herself out banging her head on the floor. We were in wal mart at the time. She didn't injure herself luckily.

Does your son have trouble falling and or staying asleep?

New Life Started 07/24/12

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

So glad I read this thread true blessings to everyone with special needs children my son is 3 and has yet to be diagnosed with anything but we def have behavioral probs in our household I had to quite my job almost 2 years ago to stay home with him Bc he had over 250 incident reports in daycare they refused to keep him being a liability pretty much he bites everyone including himself he was slow with speech do they blamed it on that I had him evaluated at 1 they said autism no way we all sated while in the mean time I had wrap around services since he was 1 20 hours a week exhausting yes had him evaluated at 2 they said sensory issues and prob ADHD but can't diagnose or medicate until 3 or 5 in some cases will he goes back sept 18 and I hope I get some solid answers Bc he's getting extreme he was around teenagers I was there with family they were saying very volgur stuff well sure enough it's branded in his mind and his favorite things to say are hate u f**k bitch and so on also spits and hurts me I'm truly fed up I'm the boss and I show him but y isn't he getting it he as well is super intelligent can already start to read and count he has meltdowns over everything and I look like a parent who has no structure in our life at all which is not the case he doesn't care if tv is taken away his iPod or toys he has destroyed my house in tantrums literally pulled the door off hinges Bc it wouldn't open pushed a dresser over with tv on it thank god it didn't hurt him in scared for his future I have to get this under control before its to late if u can't tell today was a horrible day for him and this is the mess I came out to when hanging clothes up

I also meant to add that Hannah used to flip the furniture and things like your son. She also bit me when she was almost 3 and she refused to let go. I was 7 months pregnant and was at a book store. She kept running off so I picked her up and had her on my hip. She bit me on the breast and wouldn't let go. I yelled it hurt so bad. I was bawling like a baby, right there in the middle of borders. It finally took my friend pushing hard on the bridge of her nose to get her to let go. I was hurt and embarrrassed, everyone was staring and Hannah started screaming, I had blood all over my shirt (still have a scar). It was awful. I thank God for the help she is receiving. On an upside to that awful biting incident. I guess the pushing up/ bak on her nose worked because that's the last time she bit anyone.

New Life Started 07/24/12

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It's flour btw... I broke down yesterday to my mom and was like mom I know I'm very young bit other kids I see aren't like this regardless of how old or bad the parents are I dealt like world was against me yesterday and with Levi when it's good he's amazing but when it's bad it's really bad it's all or nothing it seems like I really need to start montering if any activitys or behaviors trigger it and Levi isn't hard to stay asleep its getting him to sleep tho sometimes it's 3am before he passes out that's with no nap but then he will sleep until like 12 in afternoon or so once again love support here not only for surgery but for life so thankful for u guys <3

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

My daughter is 4 and has behavioral issues. She has them to the extreme measures of turning and punching herself in the face. I had CPS in our life until finally she threw the tantrum in the social workers office. Now I am getting the help for her that I have been begging for.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

My daughter is 4 and has behavioral issues. She has them to the extreme measures of turning and punching herself in the face. I had CPS in our life until finally she threw the tantrum in the social workers office. Now I am getting the help for her that I have been begging for.

Wow! I'm glad you're finally getting the help you need.

New Life Started 07/24/12

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks god your getting help now

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

She has no clue the picture bothered me the way it did. I have learned from the past not to show it. I'm pretty strict on actions/consequences. No tv' date=' no outside play, no friends over etc.. she gets rewarded for good behavior, punished for bad.

I've definitely got my work cut out for me. ADHD & Bipolar run in both mine and my husbands families very strongly. So far out of my 5 kids 3 have issues. 10 year old is ADHD, 7 y.o. you know about, 5 y.o. we are having her assessed for ADHD (pretty sure that's it) she's one wild kid and has zero regard for others personal boundaries to include total strangers. Twins, I'm praying and keeping my fingers crossed.

I'm convinced its all the steroids and preservatives in our foods today.

Another theory I have on Hannah (7 y.o.) is that she has these problems because her twin didn't live. I lost her twin @ 28 weeks. It never crossed my mind until I had Lilee & Rowan. It's like they have a gravitational pull towards each other. Maybe that bond being lost is why Hannah is so off kilter.

New Life Started 07/24/12[/quote']

You know I have two ADHD children and I am a single parent it takes everything n me to deal with my kids. I love then dearly, sometimes I wonder if they are tryna break me down. People dont know what its like to raise ADHD CHILDREN, they take EVERYTHING to the MAX, no joking I often wonder if im gonna have a stroke or heart attack cuz of the tmnstress im under. My kids are doy girl and five yrs apart and they fight even in there sleep. kids can be tge meanest, cruelest people on earth, I wilk b praying for u.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You know I have two ADHD children and I am a single parent it takes everything n me to deal with my kids. I love then dearly' date=' sometimes I wonder if they are tryna break me down. People dont know what its like to raise ADHD CHILDREN, they take EVERYTHING to the MAX, no joking I often wonder if im gonna have a stroke or heart attack cuz of the tmnstress im under. My kids are doy girl and five yrs apart and they fight even in there sleep. kids can be tge meanest, cruelest people on earth, I wilk b praying for u.[/quote']

Thanks, I will be praying for you also.

New Life Started 07/24/12

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×