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I know this is going to sound petty but I needed to share with someone. I just went to a meeting at work where we were given promotional t-shirts for a new product. The shirts all had sticky notes with names, and when my boss handed me mine it was at the very bottom and I saw that is was a 2x. Prior to surgery I wore a 2x so this wouldn't have normally bothered me except that I realized she had given another woman at my job (who I feel is notably larger than me and even was prior to surgery and 20lbs ago) a 1x. I've been a lot more confident about my body since after the surgery and that just kind of felt like a slap in the face of what I didn't want to feel anymore. We ended up trading shirts (I used my surgery as an excuse) and the 1x fit... somehow making me feel even crummier that I was presumed to need the biggest shirt they could provide. Idk my feelings just got hurt and I realize that I'm nowhere near out of the realm of being fat even though I've felt like I was farther than I really am. Just sad.

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I'm really sorry that happened to you. People can be so unkind. I feel really overwhelmed with the amount of weight I still have to lose as well. Just remember, you have made a giant positive step in the right direction and you WILL succeed!!

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Some people have not a clue as to how much certain things can hurt a overweight person's feelings. Please don't take this situation to heart and move past it, it is not worth your time, think of positive things that the one major step you took to control your weight is a MAJOR step. Some people do not have a clue as to what 1X or 2X is, we of course do. You are on your way...... keep up the good work sweetie :)

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Your boss is a poop head. Keep your head up & don't let anyone put you down & I'm going to take my own advice

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Yeah, doesn't help that my dad just called me fat. I told him the shirt story I told you guys and he says "you are the only person who'd get offended over something like that. 'Oh wahh I'm fat and they gave me a large shirt how dare they.' "

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Yeah' date=' doesn't help that my dad just called me fat. I told him the shirt story I told you guys and he says "you are the only person who'd get offended over something like that. 'Oh wahh I'm fat and they gave me a large shirt how dare they.' "[/quote']

Keep your head up! Don't let anyone get you Down! We are all works in progress and you have every right to feel proud of the weight you have lost so far. You will be at your goal soon enough and you will most definitely have the last laugh! Keep up the great work!

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People just don't realize. Your boss still prolly doesn't realize. Next time they hand out shirts and you will be even smaller! You can say "excuse me but this way too big!"

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They should have asked what size you needed! That was very rude and uncalled for. I feel for you.

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I know this is going to sound petty but I needed to share with someone. I just went to a meeting at work where we were given promotional t-shirts for a new product. The shirts all had sticky notes with names' date=' and when my boss handed me mine it was at the very bottom and I saw that is was a 2x. Prior to surgery I wore a 2x so this wouldn't have normally bothered me except that I realized she had given another woman at my job (who I feel is notably larger than me and even was prior to surgery and 20lbs ago) a 1x. I've been a lot more confident about my body since after the surgery and that just kind of felt like a slap in the face of what I didn't want to feel anymore. We ended up trading shirts (I used my surgery as an excuse) and the 1x fit... somehow making me feel even crummier that I was presumed to need the biggest shirt they could provide. Idk my feelings just got hurt and I realize that I'm nowhere near out of the realm of being fat even though I've felt like I was farther than I really am. Just sad.[/quote']

A similar thing happened to me...I was working as a phlebotomy trainer supervisor for 10 yrs. Their idea of a nice company gift was lab coats with our names embroidered on them. Since they were suppose to be a surprise gift,no one asked what size we needed. At the time I was wearing sz.18. Tell me why these ignorant ass skinny people ordered and presented me with a 3x !? It hurt my feelings, but I didn't let it show. I have always been a big girl, but I never thought of others seeing me "that" big.. I wore that damn jacket though..lol funny thing is, they were very particular about staff wearing scrubs that fit correctly...dumbasses! Lol

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I understand how your feeling. You work so hard and want others to see your progress. I started at a size 22 so I practically lived at Lane Bryant. So now that I'm a size 8/10 I'm excited I no longer can shop there. I've been struggling to find a bathing suit I feel comfortable in sense I'm still self conscious. So my fiancé said well why don't you go to Lane Bryant and see what they have. Well I was so annoyed with him. I said I can't wear anything in there anymore and he just didnt get it. I felt like he should of known I was to small for that store but he was just trying to help. I don't think he was implying I was big but he knew before that I always could find something there to fit me. So even now I'm still unsure if myself and need time to process how things fit and my comfort level.

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I understand how your feeling. You work so hard and want others to see your progress. I started at a size 22 so I practically lived at Lane Bryant. So now that I'm a size 8/10 I'm excited I no longer can shop there. I've been struggling to find a bathing suit I feel comfortable in sense I'm still self conscious. So my fiancé said well why don't you go to Lane Bryant and see what they have. Well I was so annoyed with him. I said I can't wear anything in there anymore and he just didnt get it. I felt like he should of known I was to small for that store but he was just trying to help. I don't think he was implying I was big but he knew before that I always could find something there to fit me. So even now I'm still unsure if myself and need time to process how things fit and my comfort level.

Hey. You can't blame him, he is a man. Is he really suppose to know about Lane Bryant store sizes? I actually run into the opposite problem - people always trying to make me squeeze into stuff I know won't fit so I feel double embrassed.

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Hey. You can't blame him' date=' he is a man. Is he really suppose to know about Lane Bryant store sizes? I actually run into the opposite problem - people always trying to make me squeeze into stuff I know won't fit so I feel double embrassed.[/quote']

Ugh I've had that too, I agree it's equally as embarrassing!

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I know but I felt like he knew that Lane Bryant was a big girl store. Now I'm not so big so I felt like he was telling me I was big. It's just my own insecurities that I'm working on.

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I understand how your feeling. You work so hard and want others to see your progress. I started at a size 22 so I practically lived at Lane Bryant. So now that I'm a size 8/10 I'm excited I no longer can shop there. I've been struggling to find a bathing suit I feel comfortable in sense I'm still self conscious. So my fiancé said well why don't you go to Lane Bryant and see what they have. Well I was so annoyed with him. I said I can't wear anything in there anymore and he just didnt get it. I felt like he should of known I was to small for that store but he was just trying to help. I don't think he was implying I was big but he knew before that I always could find something there to fit me. So even now I'm still unsure if myself and need time to process how things fit and my comfort level.

Hey take a breath n count to.10 he is a Man Im pretty sure he didnt know it was a plus size store because they dnt really have to many stores that cater to men so he prbly thought every time she goes there she finds something nice so give the.poor guy.a break

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oh no doesn't she understand that you're smaller now?

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