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Why is it people who know you have had surgery think that it's totally ok to start their conversations with you or just plain ask how much weight have you lost? I'm much more than my weight loss! Not sure why it bothers me but it does... Only 2 weeks out so not back at work and coworkers etc are texting and asking etc

OMG...that's so rude. It would be nice if they would ask if u r doing ok or if you need anything.

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Yeah that was rude. Anyone will notice 60 pounds BC its a lot of weight lost.

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I'm back to work Monday so I'm sure I'll have some comments coming my way!

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Sounds like the asses I work with, I just let it go in one ear and out the other.

surgery date: 2/18/2012

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I guess I'd have to hear how it was said....to relate to his comment I do feel almost normal now...sometimes people have a habit of ingesting their feet. Sorry it made you upset, some people are tactless.

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maybe the people from work that are texting you are just excited for you. they don't know what's going on with your feelings and emotions right now so try not to get too upset by their inquiries. you are a beautiful woman now matter how much you weigh, just remember that when the stupid people open their mouths!

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Why is it people who know you have had surgery think that it's totally ok to start their conversations with you or just plain ask how much weight have you lost? I'm much more than my weight loss! Not sure why it bothers me but it does... Only 2 weeks out so not back at work and coworkers etc are texting and asking etc

I get the same thing! People don't ask what's new or how I'm doing they just want to know my number. I'm proud of my weight loss yes but some times it's annoying!!!

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Nothing like people who judge you for getting the surgery and think less of you for it because it's the "easy way out". I love those who I told I was getting surgery and they say "oh that surgery is so unhealthy, just work out and eat healthy!" work out and eat healthy you say? What is this black magic you speak of? I've never heard of that and certainly haven't tried it, Cookies are good for you aren't they? Fucking morons.

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgerversary: 6/11/12

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PS sorry for your dickhole coworkers, we've all had to deal with these ignorant idiots.

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgerversary: 6/11/12

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This surgery is not the easy way out. In most ways its harder than dieting. One day food tastes good the next (same food) not so much. It irritates me when people say that and judge. Walk in my shoes with my health problems and maybe you can judge me. Sorry just venting, just had this conversation yesterday....

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