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My name is kevin.

I've had my surgery nov 28th of last yr. I've currently lost 190 lbs. I had a very weird experience yesterday, I went on my first date in 14 yrs. this was my problem it's been so long that I still felt like that big guy I had been all that time. It didn't help that we didn't connect! I just felt strange. Has anyone had these feelings or experience? I had one girl who wouldnt date me if I was going to lose weight faster than her? WTF!!! This girl was a twig! Any way!

Thanks for having me!

Kevin W

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Welcome to the forum family!! Haha but I could see how a girl would be jealous of your weight loss!!

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Welcome to the forum family!! Haha but I could see how a girl would be jealous of your weight loss!!

Thanks! :^o

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My name is kevin.

I've had my surgery nov 28th of last yr. I've currently lost 190 lbs. I had a very weird experience yesterday' date=' I went on my first date in 14 yrs. this was my problem it's been so long that I still felt like that big guy I had been all that time. It didn't help that we didn't connect! I just felt strange. Has anyone had these feelings or experience? I had one girl who wouldnt date me if I was going to lose weight faster than her? WTF!!! This girl was a twig! Any way!

Thanks for having me!

Kevin W[/quote']

LMFAO @twig

Welcome to the group. Wow! 14 years no date. Your not a bad looking guy. You just haven't found the right one yet.

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My name is kevin.

I've had my surgery nov 28th of last yr. I've currently lost 190 lbs. I had a very weird experience yesterday' date=' I went on my first date in 14 yrs. this was my problem it's been so long that I still felt like that big guy I had been all that time. It didn't help that we didn't connect! I just felt strange. Has anyone had these feelings or experience? I had one girl who wouldnt date me if I was going to lose weight faster than her? WTF!!! This girl was a twig! Any way!

Thanks for having me!

Kevin W[/quote']

Hey Kevin, first off welcome to the board!

I'm not that long post op but already have had similar experiences in all aspects of my life. For example simply going shopping I feel like I need to go to the plus sizes (which is not the case anymore) but I have a hard time seeing myself as a "normal size" person. I am still adjusting to my new body size. I actually find it quite awkward when people comment on my weight loss at times. It's like wow is that the only thing anyone notices lol. I do love the newly found confidence that I have these days... Definitely an added bonus. I think it just takes time to adjust mentally not being that overweight person anymore.

Lol at the twig girl that didn't want you to lose faster..some people are just funny!

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<-- the right girl!

LMAO! Just kidding... Welcome to the forum!

Kevin here is the right girl lolz....

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Haha y'all fighting over Kevin!!! Hehe....he is a cutie...I'd be his right girl if I wasn't already taken!

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Lol your all killing me.....

Gotta love all the support lol! :0D

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Wow, congrats on entering the dating world. It's a wired scary place! Congrats on the weight loss and good luck on the dating!

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