Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Just putting it out there, so 'dirty' little secrets may see the light of day!



Recommended Posts

I ate candy last night and I am paying for it in gnawing hunger feelings this morning. Eh...Halloween is once a year and it's back to business today!
one Reese mini and I am starving LOL I have a 3 year old and we started going to to parties Sunday I still lost 2 pounds this week but I have not done well

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

...dying for something crunchy! I ate a small bag of Bbq Fritos driving home from work so that my husband wouldn't ask me any questions! They were delish...

Sent from my iPhone using VST

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

...dying for something crunchy! I ate a small bag of Bbq Fritos driving home from work so that my husband wouldn't ask me any questions! They were delish...

Sent from my iPhone using VST

This is an old habit of mine that I have to avoid at any and all costs. Secret eating was my downfall and something that I excelled at. You know that old saying "Go big or go home!"? I would go BIG and *then* I would go home.

When I had my surgery I vowed that I would never closet eat again. I won't feel guilty about the choices I make and I will eat whatever I choose, but I am going to do it publicly and I am going to own my decisions.

Please know that my little verbal vomit is not at all in judgement or admonishment of you. This was something that I needed to be open about and take ownership of for me.

:wub:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

When I had my surgery I vowed that I would never closet eat again. I won't feel guilty about the choices I make and I will eat whatever I choose' date=' but I am going to do it publicly and I am going to own my [/quote']

Amen, sister! Secret eating was also one of my "who do I think I'm fooling" tricks. My husband keeps asking why I tell him everything now, because he doesn't really understand that it's my way of trying not to get bogged down in sneaky eating.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Ok...I have just caught up on all of my reading,(every post on this topic!) and I could say a lot but I won't! I'm 7 weeks & 2 days post-op and of all the things I've left behind the only thing I've been craving lately is a dad-gum piece of fried chicken!!! Well, yesterday I ate a piece of fried chicken, ok, so I ate 'some' of a piece of fried chicken and I enjoyed every little bite of it! :) Thank you Madam Reverie for starting this topic so all of us that are grown up and are allowed to make our own decisions can come to it and enjoy reading posts on a topic that we can all relate to...I don't know anyone that can diet and NEVER have a little 'cheat-treat'!!! :D

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm chewing gum right now. So bad.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm chewing gum right now. So bad.

Is chewing gum really all that bad? I don't think so as long as it is SF...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Is chewing gum really all that bad? I don't think so as long as it is SF...

I agree. I don't think its bad. It just might cause more gas.

Sent from my iPhone using VST

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Why do people say they are "bad" or "naughty" like its titillating or sexy when it's just a choice you are making? Nobody is going to "punish" you. You're not a child. You made a choice and you get to choose what to do next. Does it help you to feel guilty or to put a moral cost on it? It never helped me.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I ate a whole piece of banana cream pie 8 wks out!! Sweetest little old lady brings me Desserts from time to time!! I did however cry when I gave the second piece to my sister the next day! HA

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Why do people say they are "bad" or "naughty" like its titillating or sexy when it's just a choice you are making? Nobody is going to "punish" you. You're not a child. You made a choice and you get to choose what to do next. Does it help you to feel guilty or to put a moral cost on it? It never helped me.
For me it is more about bringing my secrets to the light of day. A bad choice is a bad choice I raided my 3 year olds candy bag I ate 2 small Peanut Butter cups. I have been over weight all my adult life I am down to 275 from 344 I have worked hard to get here so I felt shame but I have vowed to be honest and allow myself be human. It was a bad choice I have been hungry all day and jonesing for sugar all day. It is a long way from gorging on the whole bag, hiding in the corner so that is a improvement. I have to look at thing honestly and call it what it is both good and bad. We all struggle with some of the same issues but are different people so do you. Negative feelings motivated me to do something different channeled in the proper direction they can cause positive change. I have never learned a important lesson from a perfect day. I am enjoying this journey and learning regularly.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

For me it is more about bringing my secrets to the light of day. A bad choice is a bad choice I raided my 3 year olds candy bag I ate 2 small Peanut Butter cups. I have been over weight all my adult life I am down to 275 from 344 I have worked hard to get here so I felt shame but I have vowed to be honest and allow myself be human. It was a bad choice I have been hungry all day and jonesing for sugar all day. It is a long way from gorging on the whole bag' date=' hiding in the corner so that is a improvement. I have to look at thing honestly and call it what it is both good and bad. We all struggle with some of the same issues but are different people so do you. Negative feelings motivated me to do something different channeled in the proper direction they can cause positive change. I have never learned a important lesson from a perfect day. I am enjoying this journey and learning regularly.[/quote']

I get this :)

As a closeted binger my biggest help these days is putting it out in the open. I still have my binging tendencies but the difference is I talk about it.

I will "come clean" so to speak with my husband now so I can express what I'm

Feeling while I was either doing it or fighting it..

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×