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Toledogirl

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Toledogirl    0

Toledogirl
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Help...I have'nt been on the sight for a long, long, time. I was banded a year ago in Jan. I started out of the gates just fine, doing what I was supposed with diet and excercise. I lost my mother suddenly 6 months ago and fell off the wagon completely. I did not care about anything. I am very depressed because this is a year later and I wanted to have a substantial amount of weight off and of course do not.

Any suggestions for getting back on? I need help!!!!:help: :help: :help:

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piercedqt78    658

piercedqt78
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Just pick yourself up and begin anew. That is the wonderful thing about the band, it is there waiting for the time to be right for you. ~Mandy

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tonya66    13

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The great thing about the band, it is always there when your ready to use it. So, lets get started. Its a new year, and you can do this!

PS - I am sorry for the loss of your mother, I know that must have been difficult.

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Kaydotrn    1

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You can do it Kim! One day at a time.

I am so sorry for your loss. Best wishes for a healthy new year!

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threebeauties    0

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Hey Kim

I lost my mom too. I also gained most of my weight after the loss of my parents. I was banded in Oct and I always think about my mom and how she didn't want weight to be an issue for me like it was for her. When she was alive she always said "don't make the same mistakes I made".

Anyway, I know feel like I am taking control of my life again and I just KNOW that my mother is proud of me for doing it!

good luck with your journey. Its a long road but one worth traveling!

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laurigee    545

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Kim..Don't beat yourself up over it. I know what it is like to be an emotional eater. Even someone who isn't, could tend to look to food with such a great loss. Look on the bright side, you have still lost 31lbs. It's a new year and you can't go back so just start from here so you don't look back next year with the same regrets. I wish you all the best and I am truly sorry for the loss of your mother.

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juliegeraci    7

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I would see if you need a fill first. That should help you out. YOu can do this. Just take a mental note as to why you were banded in the first place. Love your band and treat it with respect. YOu will bounch back quicker than you think. Good luck.

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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