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So I am not going to lie I find the idea that women are not allowed to post in the man's room and vice versa a bit silly. We are all grown adults and considering the forum's aren't private I am not sure why the restriction on the cross posting, but whatever. So what if there was a unisex forum where if people want men's and women's opinions you can get them! Or just lift the restriction :)

Just my two cents!

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Omg especially since we can read what the opposite sex says just not post..if someone was really that uncomfortable they wouldn't post in a forum like this at all

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Wouldn't that be the:Vertical Sleeve Surgery Talk Lounge?

Seems like the most appropriate spot.

This board as way too many sub forums as it is.

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Isn't the whole rest of the forum (with the except of the men's and women's sub-forums) unisex?!? I'm super confused.

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This board as way too many sub forums as it is.

Oh my GOSH this is SOOOOOOOOOOO true! I would be nice to have things a little bit more condensed. I hate OH *because* it has really no sub forums once you get to a specific board. But I feel like VST has so so so many sub forums.

As to what the OP said about the idea that we "can't" post in the Men's/Powder if we are not the correct gender does seem a bit silly. If that were true, then shouldn't Religious NOT be allowed to post in the Agnostics forum, or if you are straight should you not be allowed in the gay room? What about if you are in your 20's and heading over to the 40's board? That all seems a bit silly don't you think?

http://www.verticalsleevetalk.com/topic/80058-not-posting-in-the-mens-roompowder-room/page__hl__%2Bnot+%2Bposting+%2Bthe+%2Bpowder+%2Broom

I believe that was the original thread asking about "closing" the men's/powder room. But it's not "closed" in the sense that only if you are a man or a woman can you read, you have just restricted opposite genders from posting, not reading (correct?)

Basically my thought is this: yeah, you can restrict people from posting in certain forums, but this is, after all, a public forum. Anything you put on here can be seen by anyone at all.

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I think the gender forums should be private because usually if you start a topic in there, it's gender specific and maybe embarrassing to have the other gender read.

As for a unisex forum, every other subforum is unisex!

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I think the gender forums should be private because usually if you start a topic in there, it's gender specific and maybe embarrassing to have the other gender read.

As for a unisex forum, every other subforum is unisex!

But they are not private. Nothing on here is "private" that is my point.

Sure men are asked not to post in the powder, and vice versa, but it's really not private in any way. Just because you "post" it in the powder room doesn't mean that mean can't read it.

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I frankly don't get the need for privacy. If I post something gender specific that's embarrassing...oh, say, a rash on my man parts.... I'm equally embarrassed for a bunch of strangers to read that regardless of what sex you are. I don't feel any more comfortable spilling my secrets just because women are or are not reading it. But hey, that's just me.

If we are gonna start making forums private though, we need to make them all private. In other words, no pre-op people in the vets forum. I mean what's the difference? It's a public forum about VSG. Last I checked, they operated on our stomach not our genetalia. What's so secretive and embarrassing that the opposite sex can't read about it.....that is VSG related?

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Bahaha ok ok stand down! I don't care either way. It just seems to bother a few people lately. Just giving a suggestion. If I have a private woman question I ask my girlfriends or doc LOL!

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