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Has weight loss surgery or losing a large amount of weight even with out surgery made you more or less sexual? Also has it made your experience better like orgasims and what not lol.

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Has weight loss surgery or losing a large amount of weight even with out surgery made you more or less sexual? Also has it made your experience better like orgasims and what not lol.

Has weight loss surgery or losing a large amount of weight even with out surgery made you more or less sexual? Also has it made your experience better like orgasims and what not lol.

From my experience.....I can't get my husband off of me. He's like a dog in heat. I swear he follows me humping air. On a side note certain positions are now a little too deep so I avoid that but we've been married 15 yrs I've been waiting for what other couples complain about only having sex like 2X a month. I'm sitting here like what? Try at least 3-4x a week!

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I only have sex with my bf maybe once every 3+ months but I'm not very sexual at all. I hardly have urges and I'm wondering if its my weight and mood.

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Been married 37 yrs...& yes, getting better each day! :-D

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From my experience.....I can't get my husband off of me. He's like a dog in heat. I swear he follows me humping air. On a side note certain positions are now a little too deep so I avoid that but we've been married 15 yrs I've been waiting for what other couples complain about only having sex like 2X a month. I'm sitting here like what? Try at least 3-4x a week!

Yes i that I was the only one that felt certain positions where to deep .

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Weightloss made me more sexually which I was before but now I'm more so in heat like a rabbit .. Sex two or three time s a week is good enough for me ..

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All was good prior to surgery, but now there is that "wow" factor. Much better that before and I dare say, much better than right after we were married. I am sure a lot has to do with self image! Do y'all agree? We'll Celebrate 34 years next month!

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Thanks ladies for your replies!

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In my experience its killed my sex life and its annoying. I strted off jan 2013 at 322 now 19 weeks post op I am 234 down 90 pounds! I feel sexier, I love my body in clothes but I hate beig naked and I feel like all my energy and drive goes into my running 3-5 days a week. My hunny thinks I am super sexy and I used to be the one ready to go for sex now I just have zero desire. Working on that but it sorta takes the fun out to plan sex or get yourself in the game before hand.

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In my experience its killed my sex life and its annoying. I strted off jan 2013 at 322 now 19 weeks post op I am 234 down 90 pounds! I feel sexier, I love my body in clothes but I hate beig naked and I feel like all my energy and drive goes into my running 3-5 days a week. My hunny thinks I am super sexy and I used to be the one ready to go for sex now I just have zero desire. Working on that but it sorta takes the fun out to plan sex or get yourself in the game before hand.

completly understand because that's where I'm at and I am pre op lol.

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before VSG I wanted it all the time, always had sex on the brain. Right after surgery for a few months, as I lost weight rapidly which flooded my system with tons of estrogen, I thought about sex more often than a teenage boy and always felt in heat. Now at nearly 3 yrs out, I only really feel arousal the day right before my period, otherwise I couldn't care less. Also, physically I may now be able to do a lot of things, and I do orgasm, but I find no real pleasure in any of it now. Maybe it is because I have yet to have a lover who really knows what he's doing/actually cares about arousing me.

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From my experience.....I can't get my husband off of me. He's like a dog in heat. I swear he follows me humping air. On a side note certain positions are now a little too deep so I avoid that but we've been married 15 yrs I've been waiting for what other couples complain about only having sex like 2X a month. I'm sitting here like what? Try at least 3-4x a week!

I'm worried about the positions being too deep. Some are already too deep for me

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