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What do you tell people on your job?

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greygirl903    45

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I am scheduled for sleeve surgery on June 24th and I haven't told anyone outside my family. I'm not ashamed of having the surgery but folks at my job can be so cruel and I've heard them talk about others who have had gastric or lap band and they haven't been nice!! I know it's nobody's business but I just don't know what I will say when i'm asked specifically, did you have surgery. Has anyone else encountered this situation and if so, how did you handle it?

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Ms.AntiBand    2,984

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Tell them your dr has you on a very strict diet and excercise regimen

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Daddysgirl10    62

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I'm going to tell people that I had my Hernia repaired.

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Ms.AntiBand    2,984

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Tell 'em to suck it. HA!

Tell them that you are eating right and exercising. It's true, right?

Hey, girl.. Mines true too :P

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newat52    1,613

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Why tell them anything? Just because someone asks me a question, doesn't require me to answer. I would answer with a question such as why would you ask such a personal question? They will most likely answer it with, well I'm just curious. Then just say, yes, I can see that. Then walk away.

If you are not comfortable with that, when someone asks how you are losing, just say one, pound at a time, or the hard way. Both true.

Good luck!

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greygirl903    45

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Thanks for the suggestions. You're right, that is true..being on a restricted diet and exercising. I just hate hearing people talk negative about other folks and maybe in a way I feel like a failure because I could lose some weight but never could keep it off. I've been on a rollercoaster my entire life and I'm ready to be off of it. I have taken the steps for a forever change and I'm ready to rock and roll.

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greygirl903    45

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Why tell them anything? Just because someone asks me a question, doesn't require me to answer. I would answer with a question such as why would you ask such a personal question? They will most likely answer it with, well I'm just curious. Then just say, yes, I can see that. Then walk away.

If you are not comfortable with that, when someone asks how you are losing, just say one, pound at a time, or the hard way. Both true.

Good luck!

That is an awesome response!! I LOVE IT! Thank you so much!

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SWTKI25    12

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It's your business and no one else. People are just nosey, the sad part about is they don't care just wanna know. I wish you the best on your journey.

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greygirl903    45

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It's your business and no one else. People are just nosey, the sad part about is they don't care just wanna know. I wish you the best on your journey.

Thank you! It's just getting started but I'm super excited! I will keep everyone posted on my journey.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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