tired of being lectured on here

[PaulaB72 49]

I don't think people mind being told the truth... But some have been pretty mean with their truths. Makes me nervous to post on here sometimes.

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[4MRB4PHOTO 3,899]

....Keep asking your fat friends how to do it.

HEYYYYYY! That is not politically correct!

Us heavy people should be called "gravitationally challenged".

Edited April 25, 2016 by 4MRB4PHOTO

[LipstickLady 25,682]

My goodness people. If you don't want to be told the truth then don't ask people who have been there. Keep asking your fat friends how to do it.

My favorite thing I've read today.

[theantichick 2,204]

I'm only a third of the way through the comments on this one, so I apologize if this has already been said.

Some people have commented that if overeating wasn't the problem, the sleeve may not be the answer. I just read a new study that indicates ghrelin isn't as much of an appetite hormone as previously thought, but likely has a lot to do with regulating fat storage. So removing the part of the stomach that does most of the ghrelin production may by itself alter enough of the fat storing process to make a difference, even if overeating wasn't the issue.

From my own research, I don't think we know all there is to know about how all the hormones that are altered by the surgery work. And likely won't for another 50-60 years. In the meantime, we are getting more and more long-term data that shows that the surgeries are good options for a wide range of people, and we're learning a little bit as to why.

So I don't think the OP made a bad choice with the surgery. And everyone's experience is different, we should all keep that in mind.

[kondasa 28]

I also have not read all the threads because gosh it started in 2013.. but I will say that when I was in my teens and 20's (I am 34 now) I used to think I didn't eat a lot. I would always say, "genetics, slow metabolism, big boned." The reality was, I did eat a lot and just didn't recognize it. I noticed it when I started dating my husband--his sisters and mom are healthy weights. I would hate being with them because they ate so little and didn't even need to eat three meals a day, let alone 3 meals and 3 Snacks (like I had convinced myself I should be doing for my health). I once went on a vacation with them and ordered a "normal restaurant" meal and realized they would just grab an orange and maybe a cheese stick for lunch.

So needless to say, it took me until I was about 30 to realize that I was actually overeating. I was surrounded by people who ate like I did so I didn't notice it. Yes,I do think my genetics didn't help and we all know the people who seem to eat and eat and eat and never gain, but it was living in another world/culture that made me realize that I just ate more than other people. I do believe now even with my rough genes that if I had eaten less my whole life I would not be a size 2, but probably wouldn't also be morbidly obese.

After being sleeved for 1.5 months I feel for the first time that I am eating like my husband's sisters and mom.

[con con 142]

Maybe the origin of their comments is being miscommunication. Especially in a format like this, flat not really emotional it's getting lost in translation. I'm sure it comes from a good place. But sadly we can't teach manners

[con con 142]

The good people here far out weigh the bad. Just look ahead and let it roll off you :]

[melyssafaye 181]

Before surgery I would swear up and down that I didn't have a food addiction. That my issue wasn't really about overeating. I had maintained my weight at 235 (give or take 5lbs) for over 20 years. Sure, I gained while pregnant but quickly went right back to 235. I didn't drink soda or eat fast food. I ate dessert some times and occasionally grabbed a bag of m&ms but everyone does, right?

After surgery I realized that I knew nothing about eating. I had been drinking a gallon of sweet tea a day (at least) with about 2 cups of sugar. That's almost 1700 calories right there. And while I didn't eat huge portions, I ate lots of carbs and few high Protein foods. A meal wasn't a meal without bread and I started each meal with a bite of bread. The m&ms "toll" in the grocery store line just enabled me to use food as a reward.

Now, I look at mini ice cream bars that are low sugar and not a lot of carbs and know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that while one wouldn't be awful, "I'll just have one occasionally" is a lie and it's more likely that half the box would be gone before I even made it home. So, I leave them in the frozen food section where they can be a gateway drug for someone else.

Before surgery, someone calling me out on that would have been deeply offensive. My denial was way too deep to hear any of it.

I guess my point is that we should have compassion because we are each on different places in our journeys.