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oh lord..."your" rant. Not you're. I hate when I do that!

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If I was to post a rant, it would be about people ranting about others who are probably scared and confused and reaching out wishing and hoping that what is happening to them is normal and that they're not the only one experiencing thier issues asking questions and seeking reassurance on a forum meant for informing them and answering thier questions.

if I was to post a rant that is.. :ph34r:

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Lets not fail to mention these:

What about swallowing while giving a BJ?

How many of you have feminine moisture problems post op?

Have I forever ruined my chances of eating a complete burger at one time? What about Thanksgiving?

How do I post a pic or update my profile?

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I just find this post rude. Everyone has the right to ask whatever questions they want, it doesn't matter if its been posted before, they can still ask.

This place is supposed to be for support. Should people just read what other people have posted and never get involved? That person might not find much support just reading other people's posts compared to if they posted the thread themselves.

Besides if every topic was only posted once there wouldn't be anyone posting anything because its all been said!!

If you see a topic that you already know about or have already read, why don't you just keep scrolling. It doesn't even effect you at all really

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There's a reason people ask these questions. Just in case something IS out of the ordinary. For instance, the pain in my left shoulder was NOT gas pain. After a full week of severe pain, and being constantly told it was gas, the surgeon and I discovered it actually was the end of the drain tube poking my diaphragm, causing referred pain. The moment he removed the drain the pain was gone.

Hell.. I can't imagine a doc making me have a drain for a week! That's crazy! Hope you mentioned that when posting about shoulder pain or some would have questioned if that was possibly the problem.

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I just find this post rude. Everyone has the right to ask whatever questions they want, it doesn't matter if its been posted before, they can still ask.

This place is supposed to be for support. Should people just read what other people have posted and never get involved? That person might not find much support just reading other people's posts compared to if they posted the thread themselves.

Besides if every topic was only posted once there wouldn't be anyone posting anything because its all been said!!

If you see a topic that you already know about or have already read, why don't you just keep scrolling. It doesn't even effect you at all really

Have you never ranted about anything before? Infact, you are ranting at my ranting...and that's okay by me.

Sorry to have offended...you can share your opinion here, just as I can. It doesn't make me dislike anyone by them asking redundant questions.

Rants can be in good fun... I've had plenty rants directed towards folks like me in different situations, and really it's okay.

No worries, I'm sure this thread will go *poof*...

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Lets not fail to mention these:

What about swallowing while giving a BJ?

Now that's a question I wouldn't have even thought about asking... great question..ha!

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Have you never ranted about anything before? Infact' date=' you are ranting at my ranting...and that's okay by me.

Sorry to have offended...you can share your opinion here, just as I can. It doesn't make me dislike anyone by them asking redundant questions.

Rants can be in good fun... I've had plenty rants directed towards folks like me in different situations, and really it's okay.

No worries, I'm sure this thread will go *poof*...[/quote']

Haha ranting at you for ranting, that made me laugh. I just don't want newbies to come on and read this post and be afraid to ask questions. When I first got on here I asked everything I wanted and why would I search the forums first? I wanted Answers to my specific problem not someone else's.

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Haha ranting at you for ranting, that made me laugh. I just don't want newbies to come on and read this post and be afraid to ask questions. When I first got on here I asked everything I wanted and why would I search the forums first? I wanted Answers to my specific problem not someone else's.

Hehe, that's one of the problems with the "Recent Posts" section - there's no filter on it at all, and it's really easy to miss that this post is in a section specifically for ranting. Honestly, I wonder if posts to the Rants and Raves forum should be included in "recent posts" or just left as gems for those who poke around the site and hopefully KNOW they're in this section! I do think that most experienced forum folk (and I'm talking forums in general, not just here) do spend a little time reading the site before jumping in to ask potentially redundant questions just to make sure they understand the forum culture and maybe see where questions like theirs might go in the various sub-forums, but it's not as common with people who don't normally hang out on forums.

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I agree, this does get to me, HOWEVER... Sometimes I feel like the search funtion isn't that great. I remember when I was a noob trying to read about the dreaded week three stall and I did find SOME posts, but not a lot. I'm certain there was more on this site about that topic but I was having a hard time uncovering it so I try to be understanding and my week three stall was extreme, it last three weeks for a total of nearly 4 weeks with incredibly minimal weight loss, I can see why that would disturb people as it did me. What I REALLY get sick of are "omg I ate a whole can of soup" (why did you sit down with a whole can of Soup? ) and posts about Hair loss I don't know why those particular posts grate on my nerves so much but they do.

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Haha ranting at you for ranting' date=' that made me laugh. I just don't want newbies to come on and read this post and be afraid to ask questions. When I first got on here I asked everything I wanted and why would I search the forums first? I wanted Answers to my specific problem not someone else's.

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It def made me think twice about asking a question i mean i get it but its still a lil messed up.....you know lately i been on here and i see a lot of this type stuff....and even ppl acting like they are not human like just bc they got surgery they will never touch a "bad food" again a lot of bs...when i first got on here i thought this was a great site and i was happy bout the support but the more i stay the more dumb stuff i see....either or....ive identified the sarcastic i know it all aliens never eat a bad thing again ppl...and decided to just accept the support and opinions....nobody is perfect...and no i don't look all over the forum for questions they might have been asked in 2010 bc its 2013 and maybe someone has a diff answer than 3 years ago things change

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Will I have loose skin' date=' I got 120 lbs to lose :P[/quote']

Hey, the answer is not always yes. It depends on the type of training you do during and after weight loss. For example, I am down 180 lb and only have a little lose skin in from of stomach. No where else. I have a feeling it too will disappear with the right core training. I have been a very active runner / cross fitter which helps. It also depends on a magnitude of other more subtle differences like how much Water you drink, how clean your diet is, what supplementation you take, etc. So no, this is not as stupid a question as it seems.

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Now that's a question I wouldn't have even thought about asking... great question..ha!

Already been answered quite well about 3 months ago under the food forum. Lol.

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Furthermore, the search feature is broken on my razor android phone. It will show one page of results. When I tell it to load more threads, it crashes with an error. So no, search cannot even be used in this case.

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As per the sticky at the top of this forum, rants specifically created to rant about members of this forum are not permitted, therefore, I am closing this topic.

If you feel a question has been asked a million times, or you are bothered by a question, simply scroll on by. You are not required to respond and there are plenty of others who understand and are willing to help.

Thank you.

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