Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Hubby's coming home in 2 months



Recommended Posts

Hey Ladies,

Yesterday was my 6 months anniversary, I have lost about 80 pounds and have bout 30 more to go. My husband is in the Army and left on a year long tour to Korea when I was about 10 weeks out from surgery. He comes home in middle June for a few weeks vacation, and I am so nervous about it. I have lost a lot of weight since he left, about 50 pounds, however I'm not so nervous about that, it's all my extr skin. In clothes I can hide all this extra flappy skin I have everywhere, I feel good and confident in my clothes, however in the bedroom, undressed there is no hiding it and I am so uncomfortable and nervous by it. I should say that I have an amazing husband who has loved me through everything, didn't care when I was overweight and has never made me feel bad about myself, so I know the worry has more to do with my own internal thoughts than with my husband, just wondering if anyone else has felt this way and how you overcame it. Thanks

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Lingerie, sweetie. Get some. You can shop online for a larger selection, and in private. It does wonders for one's confidence.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hey, don't sweat it. In "guy terms" he's gonna feel like he's gettin some "strange" (legally...LOL) He'll be plenty modivated and overlook anything. My guess is you'll need a stopwatch to time "it" in seconds. Enjoy it.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Ha, I actually agree with recycle!

That man loves you and misses you!

Enjoy him, let him enjoy you, it's not going to matter what you wear, it's going to be about the honest love and acceptance of each other.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Aw! Your husband sounds awesome! I am 100% sure he is just going to be so happy to be home and back with you, he's not even going to see the loose skin that you do. Get some some lingerie that makes you feel sexy! It won't matter anyway as I'm sure he's gonna rip it off of you. ;)

Good luck and don't stress! Just enjoy him being home with you and seeing your great new body!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thank guys, I guess I knew that but sometimes hearing it from someone else helps it sink in more. Thanks so much for the support.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have had this convo with my fiance bc i am sooooo self consious he said babe men dont see those flaw you women do if we love you then we dont see anything wrong with you! Im like awwww made me feel better its all in our heads honey. Have fun!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×