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Ok maybe writing this down and possibly getting some words of encouragement will help me feel better!

Since Christmas, my husband and I have taken quite a few unexpected financial hits. I mean one right after another! I have been so stressed due to having a new baby, work, school, and everything falling apart recently. But I've been managing. My cousin passed away of cancr in december, my uncle was diagnosed with cancer, and then my aunt. To top everything off, my car with only liability insurance was stolen the night before last! Yesterday all I wanted to do was eat!

I don't know if I can handle all of this mess! My back is killing me and I have a test in microbiology in 2 hours! My mind is so foggy, I feel like I'm in a bad dream.

Thanks for listening.

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This is alot of stress to endure.......Hang in there and recognize the temptation to turn to food and work on not giving into that impulse. It's hard. I hope things start turning around......Now, take a deep breath 3 to 4 times and picture letting go of the stress with each breath exhale. Repeat in your mind, I'm ok, I can do this.... :)

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When it rains, it pours. Right? Just keep faith that this storm, too, shall pass. I recently when through some horrific and very stressful things over the past year. Only two weeks ago did life get better. Just remember to get good sleep, and BREATHE!

I wish I could help you out with the car, but if you need anything for the baby, I will be happy to send you something. I will also keep your family in my prayers.

HUGS!

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Oh babe it sounds like life is hitting hard right now!

Hang tough breathe and look at the good..

I would say "god only gives you what he knows you can handle"

But I hated when people said that to me

I always told them "well gods picked the wrong bi**h then because this IS to much"

Take care!

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Sorry things have been so rough! Sometimes one day at a time is WAY too ambitious, & we do better with one hour at a time. Sending you some good vibes! :)

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Thanks everyone! I haven't been emotional until today. I had a good cry and it's time to move forward. I look my beautiful children and loving husband who has been my rock and know the only choice I have is to keep my head up!

Luckily, we have savings and we have opposite work schedules. Sharing a car for now is very doable. My world isn't over, it just shook quite a bit. My aunt's cancer was removed and we are optimistic about my uncle. A car is just a car and money is just money.

You all are so sweet. Thank you!

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