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Robyn Owens-Miille

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Robyn Owens-Miille    132

Robyn Owens-Miille
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I had my 9 month post-op visit yesterday (just shy of 10 months). I'm -106 since surgery, -121 total. We started talking goal weight. I weighed in @ 219. He feels I can hit goal weight by 15 - 18 months post-op. His number for my goal is 161 lbs. His basis for this is that my lean body mass of 124 plus 30% body fat (37 lbs).

However, that puts my BMI still in the "overweight" range. He said that my bones are going to be much heavier than the average 5'3" woman because of my lifetime of obesity. He feels that 140 lbs, which is where I would have to be to have a "normal" BMI, is simply to low for me.

Thoughts? How did you set your goal weight?

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mokee    588

mokee
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Well when you get there you can decide. You may want to be smaller ot you may be fine at 160. This is not a problem. Just keep up the good work, you are doing great.

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Sleevedintx    39

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My dr hasn't talked about a goal with me yet I'm only 9 weeks out. But I was 175 back in the day and other than needing to tone up I was happy there so I made that my personal goal. I will see where I am when I get there. It's also the high end on the range for a person of my age and height. I can pull off a heaver weight because I'm so tall (5'10) and I didn't look heavy then I was in a size 12-14. I did have some extra chubs on my tummy then but I felt good in clothes.

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lsereno    2,525

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Tiffykins, who was a great resource for me when I first joined this group had this same issue. Her bones were heavier from years of being obese. And you will have extra skin. I suggest shooting for the Dr's goal and then seeing how you feel at that weight.

Another frequent former poster, Lil Miss Diva, looked fabulous at a BMI higher than normal. I think she has the same issues with heavier bones. Plus she exercises like a fiend and muscle weighs more.

Lynda

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Robyn Owens-Miille    132

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Thanks Ladies. I'm just going to keep working at it and see where I end up.

Plastics are hopefully in my future. My insurance requires a 20% weight loss for 2 years. I'm far beyond the 20% and rapidly approaching a year. I just pray they don't change the coverage before I get there!

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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