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I think it's unfortunate that people have to return to a job before they are ready. Your body needs to heal. I've heard horror stories of folks having complications because they pushed themselves

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I work for a very small family owned company' date=' only about eight employees. I planned on taking a week and a half of vacation days for my surgery. Im a graphic designer so i sit a lot in my job. One of my coworkers said that I should be taking disability instead of vacation day. However I'm afraid that my boss will treat me badly and be mean to me out of spite if I use disability as opposed to vacation days. (She is a VERY mean boss) I never looked into disability so I'm not quite sure how it works. Does everyone plan on using vacation time or filing for disability? I could use some opinions :/[/quote']

You'll probably need to just use vacation time. I was sleeved on the 18th and took 2 weeks because I'm a baby like that. Lol But I really only needed a week and that was with them fixing a hernia! But anyway, you may want to look into the FMLA because I don't think the company you work for has to provide that since there's so few employees. Don't quote me on it, but I think a place has to have more than 14 employees. I remember that was an issue for me when I was first checking into it.

But you'll be fine since you're at a desk. Maybe try to schedule the surgery on a Friday or Monday to maximize the time?

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I work for a corporation and have been trained on FMLA and LOA. I am in Texas so laws may differ from state to state. I am also in management. I can understand why you are worried and reasonably so. I had a HORRIBLE boss before who made my life a living hell. When I had to take a LOA she was calling and emailing me following up when I was supposed to come back. I can quote you laws for corporations but I am not very familiar with job protection in your situation. You may want to consult Equal Employment Opportunity Commission for guidance. I am taking the maximum amount of time my surgeon and physicians will approve. I am fortunate to have decent benefits. I can take up to 7 weeks paid at 100%/60% after that, have job protection for 12 weeks. My situation is a lil different because I am also Bipolar and I am on several medications that need to be monitored and regulated post op. Ok I am rambling sorry. Another thing is, you are not required to inform your boss why you are needing leave. They cannot/should not know the medical details per HIPPA. All you are required to disclose is that you need medical leave and fill out the paperwork. your HR dept would handle the detailed medical documents and are bound by law not to disclose with your mangement the reasons why.

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I live in Cali. My doctor told me I could use my disability. But I'm choosing to use vacation days . I don't want my co worker to know I'm having surgery. I know they would judge me, ask a million and one questions and watch me like a hawk!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      1. LeighaTR

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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