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Thanks fellers. Time is inching ever so closer!!! Did the surgery effect any of you psychologically or emotionally? Like get depressed or isolated? I've never been that way ever but for some reason I'm fearing this happening.

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I did have a few emotional bumps in the road where I thought I was losing it. However it did pass.

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Thanks fellers. Time is inching ever so closer!!! Did the surgery effect any of you psychologically or emotionally? Like get depressed or isolated? I've never been that way ever but for some reason I'm fearing this happening.

Nope, not one bit. I was bat crap crazy before surgery and now nothing changed, just ask my ex.

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I was just in a state of I can't believe I did this. It was my first surgery ever and then I started getting scared about complications and then I hated food. Now it's all in the past and I feel leveled out it just took 5 months lol. Well worth it all though.

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Cool! Glad to hear it bro!! I've had surgery before and I'm an RN so I know what to expect on that end. It's the new eating that I'm concerned about!!

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Thanks fellers. Time is inching ever so closer!!! Did the surgery effect any of you psychologically or emotionally? Like get depressed or isolated? I've never been that way ever but for some reason I'm fearing this happening.

Nope!! Just got laid more!!

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I was just in a state of I can't believe I did this. It was my first surgery ever and then I started getting scared about complications and then I hated food. Now it's all in the past and I feel leveled out it just took 5 months lol. Well worth it all though.

Good to hear. I was (am) the same way. Some days I say WTF did I do, then look at the results and am better!

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Two months out. Down nearly 50 from the surgery. Down over 100 from my peak. Wearing clothes I could have fit into in college 20 years ago. Johnson is bigger, harder and lasts longer than ever. Eating more or less whatever I want, with some exceptions (bread is tough), just slowly, in smaller quantities, and smarter. Am not really hungry. Eating foods I like (Protein, etc.).

Why didn't I do this 10 years ago, again? Good luck to you, dude. We got your back.

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Appreciate it Jeff. That makes me feel better hearing people say they'd do it again or should've done it sooner. Gotta be there at 7 and surgery between 8-8:30!!!

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Rock it. Check in on the other side and let us know how it went. First day or two will suck. It's all good in the end...long term thinking!

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All of this feedback is fantastic - it's as if we are all inside of each other's heads.

I agree 100% - my ONLY regret is not doing this sooner!

There isn't a pizza or cheeseburger in the world that would make me feel as good as I do now. I don't feel like I'm on a diet or deprived at all. I agree with the other poster, I feel more masculine now, more stamina, more "interest" - you name it.

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There isn't a pizza or cheeseburger in the world that would make me feel as good as I do now.

I don't know if I would quite say this ...

There was this guy in college who used to make this mushroom and herb pizza that made me feel REALLY good.

Funny thing was, he would only give me 1 slice, though.

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My relationship with food was...well...romantic. We had a deep festering love for each other. I was worried before surgery. I love my BBQ, I love cooking, my outdoor grill area would put most indoor kitchens to shame, and I've always had a fully stocked kitchen, most acquired from my days as a chef. I didn't want to lose my food.< /p>

After surgery, I haven't had any desires for those foods. I see the progress I've made, and these wonderful guys and their encouragement, I feel I've definitely built some friendships here, and combined with the success of my journey so far, only 3 weeks out and 30 pounds down, I really wouldn't exchange that for anything. I'm ready to get skinnier, be able to run and bike, hike for forever, and do whatever I want physically, hell even show off a bit, haha. The food will always be there, like these guys have said, you just learn to change it up, and not eat near as much as we once did. Im looking forward to the challenge of making some of my old BBQ and dishes but with a much healthier turn.

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It seems that once the fat starts coming off and the strength and wind increase this thing has a momentum of it's own. You like where you are going and don't want to put the brakes on with crappy eating. You are building yourself like you would build a fancy custom house and only want good materials to go into it.

Mixed metaphors but you catch my drift.

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