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I'm so afraid to do this and I have surgery scheduled for March 22.

I'm afraid because it's a new surgery and there aren't many long term facts about how people fare.

I'm a little afraid too because I had a panic attack after having my lapband removed. I'd never had one before and I actually had two after that. I don't have them now.

I'm a broken person though and I need fixing. Pretty much out of other options.

That's where I am and if it were my heart, I'd have surgery right?

What are your thoughts?

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Being almost 6 weeks out, I would do it again in a heartbeat! :) I already feel better than I have in years! :) .

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I will admit - there are TIMES when I regret this surgery. I had the surgery in Oct 2012, and am down a smidge over 61 lbs...I look better, I feel better, BUT...there are times when I still miss/mourn my old relationship with food. I had a love/hate relationship with food for over 40 years! We would fight, break up, get back together again and I have to admit - there are times when I miss being able to go back to food again. I can't. Ever. If I eat ONE BITE too much, I get sick... there are some foods that are permanently off limits for me... I don't miss them all the time, but occaisionally, I do. My taste buds changed...there are some foods I just don't like anymore...

Today? Today I would totally do it again... but I would be lying if I said that I NEVER regretted the surgery. It is hard...the behavior modification is very strict... the old me, if I "fell of the wagon" and had a dinner of margaritas and nachos, I had to deal with my guilt and disappointment in myself. Now, I will get PHYSICALLY sick. I guess that is what it took for me to remain compliant. But it is hard.

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I am about 5 weeks post op and I have to admit that there are moments when I regret the surgery as well. Very brief fleeting moments. I would do the surgery again in a second. You have to look at the long term benefits. I got the surgery because I wanted to have more time with my wife and newborn daughter. I dont want to die young and leave them alone. In the long run, the benefits far outweigh the brief joy from pigging out!!!

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I'm 6 months out and would do it again in a heartbeat!! Can't wait to have my plastic surgery to repair the damage of being fat for so many years.

After my research, I found that the sleeve was the best and less complications then the Ban or bypass!!

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I'm so afraid to do this and I have surgery scheduled for March 22.

I'm afraid because it's a new surgery and there aren't many long term facts about how people fare.

I'm a little afraid too because I had a panic attack after having my lapband removed. I'd never had one before and I actually had two after that. I don't have them now.

I'm a broken person though and I need fixing. Pretty much out of other options.

That's where I am and if it were my heart' date=' I'd have surgery right?

What are your thoughts?[/quote']

I think it's natural to be hesitant about going into any surgery that causes a permanent change in your body. If you are not 100% sure about diving into this, or if you are still having doubts if its the right choice for you, perhaps you should wait a while. Once it's done, it's done.

I had my sleeve done on the 26th of Feb. the first week was VERY difficult for me. Not from a physical aspect, but from the emotional repercussions. I make Breakfast, lunch and dinner for my family. Not being able to indulge in what I was making daily was VERY tough for me. I couldn't even taste it while I was making it! However, I have discovered that my sense of smell has heightened and I now enjoy making meals more than ever. I'm able to take in the aroma of the spices and seasonings... It's almost as good as tasting it (without the guilt) ;)

I think this whole process really truly has to be a complete lifestyle change. Not to say you will never think about, or miss the food that got you to this point... But it's one of the times that you have to say your good byes and move on from. Some people choose to go back to those food, and eat them in moderation (remember, you won't be able to eat the large meals again, just a small portion of what you use to). I personally have made the decision not to revisit these foods. To me they were my drug. They were addictive and clearly I wasn't able to stop on my own, like I thought I could. I feel that I have been so blessed to have a second chance at this and I will not go back to old habits. That is MY PERSONAL way of handling this.

Anywho... Just think long an hard before you do this. Everybody has their own experience. Some great and successful and others no so much.

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Im 11 weeks out and as the others said I would not think twice. I'm very happy that I did it. Ive lost 55 lbs so far. I have been trying to lose weight for so long. Ive lost 70 pounds in the past and gained it back with extra lbs. Ive lost 50 lbs many times alone and gained it back. This is the first time I feel that I have control over how much I eat. My family said Why get the surgery when you can eat small portion on your own without it? well I can do that but after a while I fall back into my old ways due to problems depression or simply boredom. By the time you get your surgery date mentally you will be ready for change. It will be difficult in the beginning becasue the sleeve is swollen but when it goes down it will be easy going. Listen to your sleeve for signs that your full and youll do great.

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Life changing! Never regretted it.

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I really think you are going to hard pressed to find anyone here that truly regrets this surgery...

Good luck to you on your choice,

Laura

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The only time when I looked back was the very first two weeks when I could only take a TINY sip of Water or anything but water since I no longer loved water. I have always been a water guzzler and not being able to drink without esophageal spasms was beyond annoying to me. I don't regret it for a minute though. Pretty soon, for me as soon as 8 weeks out, you get to buy pants THREE sizes smaller and it is happy times. The benefits to your health and the increase in energy is something amazing! I am almost 8 weeks out and have lost 43 pounds and been in a 2 weeks stall, but working out and rebuliding muscle as well! Good luck to you!

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I'm a little afraid too because I had a panic attack after having my lapband removed. I

What are your thoughts?

Not sure what you're saying here, but when they removed my band for the last time I panicked to where they had to sedate me. My reason was because I knew I'd gain weight and psychologically could not accept that thought. They kept me sedated for 3 days until I would come to terms with the fact I could never be banded again. THANK GOD! Thank God for the intellectual drs who told me the band will kill me BUT for me to research the sleeve and I will be so happy with what I find.

Waited for 18 months to recover from band damage and sleeved 12/14/12 with 0 regrets

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I'm so afraid to do this and I have surgery scheduled for March 22.

I'm afraid because it's a new surgery and there aren't many long term facts about how people fare.

I'm a little afraid too because I had a panic attack after having my lapband removed. I'd never had one before and I actually had two after that. I don't have them now.

I'm a broken person though and I need fixing. Pretty much out of other options.

That's where I am and if it were my heart' date=' I'd have surgery right?

What are your thoughts?[/quote']

I'm lost about the "new surgery" statement. The sleeve has been around for decades, it just wasn't called a sleeve. It's been used at least since the 1950's as a corrective measure for stomach cancer, or extreme ulcers.

It was used in the 1970's for patients that were deemed too high risk for gastric bypass. They would perform a stomach stapling procedure & remove the excess stomach(essentially a sleeve), then later, after the patient had lost sufficient weight a second surgery would reroute the intestine, completing the gastric bypass procedure. Many people never returned to complete the second step of the process.

It is a misnomer that VSG is anew procedure. It is only that it has just recently gain approval as a stand alone procedure in the United States.

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I'm lost about the "new surgery" statement. The sleeve has been around for decades' date=' it just wasn't called a sleeve. It's been used at least since the 1950's as a corrective measure for stomach cancer, or extreme ulcers.

It was used in the 1970's for patients that were deemed too high risk for gastric bypass. They would perform a stomach stapling procedure & remove the excess stomach(essentially a sleeve), then later, after the patient had lost sufficient weight a second surgery would reroute the intestine, completing the gastric bypass procedure. Many people never returned to complete the second step of the process.

It is a misnomer that VSG is anew procedure. It is only that it has just recently gain approval as a stand alone procedure in the United States.[/quote']

I was going to say the samething beardless guy who looks familiar!

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I was going to say the samething beardless guy who looks familiar!

I know!! Wtf is that!! :P

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I know!! Wtf is that!! :P

Until you guys said something I just thought it was a random pic he took off the Internet.

Wait.. Are the "off topic" police around? :P

*hides*

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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